Originally Posted By: Prisca
Originally Posted By: Hilltopper1972
Originally Posted By: MelodyLane
Originally Posted By: MrNiceGuy
[She would tell me it was not ME .. but her! (tired after getting in after 10pm from the night out or whatever. And she would apologize and explain to me that just thinking about doing it even though we had a great night


yep, that is how I used to feel when my H and I didn't have a good time together. When he had a bad attitude I couldnt wait to get away from him. But when we had a great time, I didn't "feel tired" or have a "headache."

I have found that the most effective way to get the sex you need in marriage is to go out on 4 - 4 hour dates and finish the night with SF. After 3 hours of great UA time, we both felt energized and in the mood.


See that's the thing. We have a fabulous time on date night, holding hands, a few kisses. Each time I think I'm home free. I don't beg, I act as if it's no big deal to me, but it never turns out that way. I've never seen a girl go from flirtatious to "you get nothing" so easily as if it's no big deal.
Originally Posted By: MelodyLane
Originally Posted By: Hilltopper1972
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See that's the thing. We have a fabulous time on date night, holding hands, a few kisses. Each time I think I'm home free. I don't beg, I act as if it's no big deal to me, but it never turns out that way. I've never seen a girl go from flirtatious to "you get nothing" so easily as if it's no big deal.


That is because you are still working against an AVERSION and your lovebank is in the RED. Once it gets in the black, that will change. What will bring you there is CONSISTENT scheduling over a period of time. [8 to 10 weeks]

Consistency and hitting the 20+ mark will get you there. She won't feel like it at first but she will after awhile.


You've also been lovebusting. No amount of meeting her EN will work if you are still lovebusting. This will take TIME. Time for her to heal from your lovebusting, and time for you to fill her lovebank to the point that you can't keep her off of you.


I can say that there are signs. She looks at me different I'd say.


Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD