It's tough, Hill. I felt the way you feel more at one point. I remember being at the point where I was packing my stuff to move out and that my wife and I were divorcing. Marriage builders saved our marriage. Luckily my wife was on board with anything that would give us a great marriage. Do keep in mind that it will take a lot of work in the beginning of you do get your wife on board. It ain't easy but it's worth it.

And you have every right to tell your wife you don't want her seeing that guy

Husband (me) 39
Wife 36
Daughter 21
Daughter 19
Son 14
Daughter 10
Son 8 (autistic)