Most of the wayward husbands over on SAA talk about how "needy" the OW is and how much she needs him. Most women with an IQ over 59 know that the way to lure a married man would be to ask them for help. Men will usually fall for that because they are wired to help women. Flirting and other obvious signals would only be effective with a MM who was openly available.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101