Originally Posted by #surviving
Ok, thank you. We are currently separated, so I don't have access to his phone.

Can you see the phone records?

Originally Posted by #surviving
He has been arrested before-I bailed him out, and I wondered if there were any other times.
I wondered if other marriages would show up in official records online. I know police can find things using social security numbers that other people can't see. I just wondered if there was something a private individual could use/pay for. I wonder about other checking/savings accounts that he could be hiding from me. Those would only show up with a social security number. Sad you have to investigate someone you've spent almost 3 decades with.

Yes, this stuff is always sad. But you need to be strategic. First work out what your goal is and then start searching. If, for example, you want to know whether your husband has been arrested, you can Google his name wrapped in quotation marks like this "xyz wayward" and that will pick up newspaper reports. No sense in paying someone to do that for you.

You will not find bank accounts, those are not public records. However, if you file for divorce, he will be obliged to disclose all his assets.

3 adult children
Divorced - he was a serial adulterer
Now remarried, thank you MB
(formerly lied_to_again)