Welcome to MB and I’m so sorry for what has brought you here.

Do not confront yet. Put spyware on her devices to confirm if the affair is over or continuing. Have you read up on Dr. Harley’s Plan A?

Does she still see this OM? Have you saved your evidence in a safe place? Does she go to bars a lot by herself? Is this OM married? Glad that you read up on exposure because you will need to follow it.

If you can afford a PI, they will probably be able to get you what you need sooner. Do you still have access to her devices?

FWW/BW (me)
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.