Thanks BH, plan A might work for me. But I'm having a hard time focusing on that now. Yesterday she left with my two daughters for a talent show competition. I find out by text from my 11 year old girl that she wasn't there during competition. Wife was said she watched her dances but didn't connect with my daughter all day. When asked why she said 'your younger daughter is a handful' and she couldn't come see her between dances. I couldn't get ahold of wife by text all today. Maybe this isn't dead. Had not added spyware yet.

Having a hard time coming up with OM wife or GF. I would almost have to stick my neck out and talk to a guy at the bar. I have to trust that he won't say anything. Or can a PI find this out for me?