(((((((BR)))))))))<P>I don't have anything insightful to say right now, because I think I'm so involved in a "controlled" situation that I can't even figure things out for myself lately.<P>But I am lurking around and am reading your post and want to send you a hug.<P>I've been in recovery before with my now exH. Honestly, he truly did want to change back then, but just always slipped backwards to old habits. However, I did have to take control of MY life, and choose what I was going to live with, and it had nothing to do with controlling him, just tired of my life revolving around him like it had been. What I'm saying is, that I didn't want control of him, just myself.<P>Hugs, Dana