The exact same thing here. How can I trust myself to judge someone as honest and trustworthy and faithful when I THOUGHT I already had that, and got cheated on through my married life?

I just spoke about this with a friend yesterday, and I said "Well, first sign of trouble with a new man, ANYTHING at all, and he's outta there."

I believe I feel like this to protect myself. I do not want pain again and so I will do anything to avoid it. Yet I realise Mr Perfect isn't out there. Clearly I am not ready for a relationship, because relationships ARE a matter of chance, and I don't want to take any chances right now. So what I am doing about this insecurity is not even looking for the chance to date. It is safer that way for me.

Love and light,