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My Story<p>It's been about 1.5 years since D-Day. From my W's side I believe the EA ended although there has been contact, more often by OM. You see, my W is one of these people that believe people can fix everything in relationships and continue on. She is sort of naive about these things but getting wiser! Also, perhaps I should have insisted on no contact from the beginning. BTW, there was no PA and the EA was mostly one-sided on the OM's part. My wife really did just want to be friends. At first she didn't respond to OMs innuendos but as they got bolder W told OM to stop. OM just didn't let up. When I found the emails I went ballistic. I was upset with W at first for not responding to innuendos in the emails. There were also a lot of phone calls from W/OM and OM/W.<p>Fast forward. We recovered from this crisis and are doing very well but W persisted in talking to OM occasionally (mostly unbeknownst to me). Apparently she had talked to him on Monday of last week while I was out of town on business. Here's the weird part, he has some kind of voice mail set up for emergencies where his wife could call in and get a message from him. (I'm not real sure what this is or how he had it setup). My W says he told her how to use this a long time ago but she forgot the phone#/code, etc. I believe her because she asks me for phone #'s we have been calling for years! The story goes he left a message for my W on this voicemail and OMW heard it. OMW calls my W on Tuesday and says "[OM] left a message for you and I don't appreciate it!". My W was dumbfounded. OMW says the message said things like "I miss you" and "Why don't you come to my son's ballgame since [OMW] won't be there". My W meets with OMW and it turns out there has been other infidelity in their marriage and OMW is mad at us for not telling her about the EA. Also, she wants copies of the emails! I destroyed the hardcopies but I do have a file. It is a password-protected ZIP file which I've honestly forgotten the password. I can get a password cracker and crack it. I really don't want to give them to OMW because she is trying to decide whether to divorce OM or not. I don't want to be involved in that. In addition, since there was no PA, would the courts place much value on these emails?<p>What should I do? Wait for a subpoena?<p>NL4M

Do you have absolutely no sympathy for this woman? It would be my luck to be in her situation. The one person who could help me would be to uncaring to help. <p>Or are you afraid that if she turns her hubby loose that he might try harder for you wife? Check you motives. It sounds like this lady could really use your help.<p>[ May 09, 2002: Message edited by: jamup ]</p>

I can understand why you might not want to get caught up in this mess, especially if things have gotten better with your W. It's got to be hard to dredge up the past again.<p>That said, I would suggest you contact an attorney of your own and express your fears/concerns. Nobody on this board can tell you what the legal ramifications might be except an attorney from your state who practices family law. <p>Then take it from there. Good luck.