In all honesty, I almost didn't remember - today would have been our 18th anniversary.<p>Any body want some bacon and eggs for b'fast? No carbs!<p>And a big cyber hug for all you wonderful Moms on Mom's Day.<p>Here's a curiosity for ya - it's Mom's Day and my son is with me thru Wednesday. We have 50/50 custody. Again, in all honesty, it's only a passing thought, but it is curious. Obviously, she has something more pressing to do today than be a Mom. <Son> says they did it last weekend and he doesn't seem to be bothered - I don't interrogate. I can guarantee you where he'll be on Father's Day.<p>Because it's come up a few times recently, here are some good "no contact" excuses for Plan B'ers when their WS wants to "talk" about off limit stuff that ought to communicate your priorities. The scarry thing is that these may make perfect sense to the abductees:<p>"I too busy, I:<p>have to launder my shoelaces"<p>have to change the air in my tires"<p>need to consolidate my dryer lint"<p>need to re-check last year's taxes"<p>have to rotate my clocks"<p>need to reciprocate the garbage disposal"<p>need to change the water in the toilets"<p>and especially for guys, "need to vacuum."<p>Seriously, this is just for fun. IMHO, B'ers should be open to any communication that feels like the WS is seeking them out relative to making a change. The communication that should be avoided is the casual, Plan A type interaction that they may have become used to during Plan A.<p>Bottom line for me: I doing fine. <Son> and I are getting excited about our sailing trip to Belize next month and Tazzie's (au pair) Mum is coming for a visit this week. Taz returns to Canberra in early June. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ May 12, 2002: Message edited by: worthatry ]</p>

dear wat- good morning. happy mothers day-i know you are a dad, but im figuring now that you are on your own, you have to be both. sorry to hear that your wife has other plans. it is amazing to me that some people can be like this.<p>i was very amused about the excuses-made me laugh. thank you.<p>if you ever have the time i would love to hear about the trip to belize-i have always wanted to go there-where are you leaving from, how big a boat, everything. and i will also want to know more once you are back. thanks

Dave,<p>Your XW is a never ending source of amusement. <p>I have the boys, I asked for them. Not that either one of them will remember it is Mother's Day. Well I do know that YS has something in his room if he remembers. And I will make sure that STBX has the boys on Father's Day, I did last yr even when he was lying were he was.<p>I am still pea green with envy over your trip.<p>Things are going well here.<p>Bet ya'll hate to see Taz leave.<p>G

WAT! Happy Mother's Day to YOU!
I believe that the person who does the nurturing is entitled to be honored today. And I think you deserve the Bacon and Eggs! I'm visiting my mom this weekend and I'm taking her out for Starbuck's Carmel Machiatto (sp?), I hope she likes it. <p>Your vacation sounds completely awesome! Please do give us the details when you return. I spent some time on a boat in New Zealand last year and it was heaven. <p>What will you do when Taz leaves? I know how difficult it was to find an au pair that ex approved of. Well maybe she'll be too busy changing the air in the tires to care.<p>Enjoy the day with your son!
ASM [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

I think it fitting that <Son> is with you today. I'm sure it was very much meant to be. <p>Have a wonderful Dad/Son day, Dave!<p>Love,
Jo

Thanks for the list of excuses... I'll have to remember those!!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Happy Mom's Day to you WAT... I agree that your son is probably right where he needs to be today. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Well, you've got lots of fans here that can't wait for more details, and pictures!!!, of your vacation!!! I know I know!!! YOu can take us all with you!!!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>18th Anniversary!! I celebrated my last wedding anniversary by taking my sister out for dinner and a movie. We had a good time. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Tomorrow is my "day he left" annversary, so I'm pretty bummed about that. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Well, we're here for ya... and we're blessed to have you on these boards with us!!! Have a great day.... you're "worth" it.

Happy Mother's Day to you, Dave! I'm sending you some cyber Bon Bons to enjoy while you sail around Belize. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

Thanks for the greeting, Dave and back attcha!<p>The light's so bright, I gotta' wear shades [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img] Belize......ahhhhhh....that sounds wonderful! Hey, by the time you return from your trip abroad, the Jimmy's will be big and full. Have a great time!!!!

Hi Dave,<p>Hey they got this gender thing going on out here about a girl who wants to be King at her senior prom!!!?!? Big debate on the radio. What else do you expect out here in la la land (oops that's LA), hmmmm sf land? (oops that sounds bad) oh well.<p>Anyway, the way I seez it, you are both mom and dad. So you deserve both days. Actually I am glad your son is with you today. Makes a real strong point for those keeping score and for those that can't count past 2 (in fogese 2 + 2 = 2 in denial), who cares! LOL! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Happy day!<p>L.

Hmmm... Well, I guess the bright side is that they did celebrate Mother's Day, right?<p>I rememeber when I was a single parent and my son would bring me home Happy Father's Day cards from school. It was both happy and sad.<p>Happy because he honored me, but sad because of my choices in life that forced him to live his life without a dad (OW/OC). That has NOTHING to do with your situation, only that your son IS fortunate that he DOES have both of you. You have an opportunity to capitalize on that.<p>Even tho the marriage is over, your lives as his parents will continue forever until death do you part. Make the best of it always!!! I know you will... for his sake.<p>WOW! It is really (REALLY) countdown to your trip now! I'm sure you will be missed out here. Maybe you can print a bunch of posts to take with you and read! Sounds crazy? Oh well, call me crazy then!!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]