Spacecase, had to get a chuckle of the dog incident. That sounds like a argument my h and I have had in the past and guess what? I reacted like your w did. I think I took everything personally ---<p>he had ever right to be mad when the dog messed in the basement, chewed up the hose on the gas grill, chewed up chairs outside, and dug the garden up. But when he would get mad--I would think he was mad at me, then I would get upset and the vicious circle of us drifting apart & together.<p>NOW when he gets a p----d about something and he is really trying to release his anger--I don't get so upset. It is wonderful for me that I have finally grown enough to know everytime he gets mad it is not about me. <p>Anyway....my dog was "FREE" from my sister-in-law. That FREE dogs has cost us atleast 1 college education with all the stuff he has destroyed. I am so attached and cant seem to give him away though. hehe