I need to see a MC about my husbands affair which Im pretty sure is over but he has denied anything happened. It did. I have appointment with a male and thought maybe it would give me a differnet perpective on the male point of view. My husband is a perfect husband now but he won't admit and it has caused alot of problems for me,like trusting and respecting him but yet I do want this marriage and I know he wants me and marriage also. Why do men lie?

In the counselling I have taken, I have not found the counsellor is able to give you advice from a male or female perspective about why someone does what they do. When a person has a affair it seems more common that it is something wiht that person and their inability to handle certain types of situations that lea them there, and unless the counsellor can talk to the actual person, they will usually not event take stab at the reason. I beleive the counsellor will work with you to help you cope through the tough time, to identify things you are feeling may have contributed to the affair. I have seen a woman counsellor and a man counsellor years back, adn found that the sex of the copunsellor does not matter, rather the approach to the problems, your feeling, and how comfortable you are to talk to them. Hope this helps.

CD:
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<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Chardondeere:
<strong>I need to see a MC about my husbands affair which Im pretty sure is over but he has denied anything happened. It did. I have appointment with a male and thought maybe it would give me a differnet perpective on the male point of view. My husband is a perfect husband now but he won't admit and it has caused alot of problems for me,like trusting and respecting him but yet I do want this marriage and I know he wants me and marriage also. Why do men lie?</strong><hr></blockquote><p>I have used both males and females, and frankly I could go either way. The good professionals are able to detach from their personal feelings and give you good, neutral advice.<p>As to your second question: "Why do men lie?", I've got news for you; lying about these things, and anything else for that matter, is gender-neutral...I could substitute every word you said with my W.