Well I have decided to start over and really give my marriage a try. My husband (WS) and I had a long talk on Saturday and he told me that he really loved and cared about me and wanted our marriage, but he didn't feel that I loved and cared about him. He feels that I haven't dealt with the death of my father and I am still hurting because of that. Even though it has been eight years ,he is right. I have been depressed a long time, and I am going to start going to counseling. He is also right that we were having problems long before his EA/PA started. He has always told me that he loved me and didn't want to loose me, but he wanted me to show him that I care about him, and find him attractive and he complained that I didn't touch him anymore. You know the more I think about it our marriage reminds me of Julia Roberts and Randy Quaid in "Something to Talk About". <p>Well I am going to really try and let my walls down and be in love again. He said he is still in love with that person he met 13 years ago and he wants the passion and romance back that we had. I know that it is in me, but I need to work through some of my own emotional issues to get there, but with God's help I know that I can. <p>Thanks J.R. your comments really helped me. I will continue to keep posting.