Update indeed. Things over the past few days have generally very good... sleeping in same bed and major Plan A on my part ;-) She has not mentioned OM much. We do talk about it which helps us both I think. Also WS feels it would be impossible to just do a cold turkey stop of conversations or chats with OM. She said that she has to do this her way and bringing finality in her minds eye to it all. She knows that all he really wants from WS at this point is friendship and no more.... We also both talked about the fact that she has to be over this relative to the recovery phase before we can discuss us and rebuilding us again.... which is what I read in SAA etc... actually we have been progressing faster than I thought we ever would. We are talking about our future etc and she has reminded me more than once mind you, that all she wants me to be right now is a good friend and not an H yet.<p>OM called her yesterday and she just ingored phone and he ignores her online and her him for most of the time. She is really hurt and very angry for what he did to her. Which was LIE. So for the time being as I expected, I am going to do everything I can to be a friend as do what I can to let her know that I am here for her regardless.....<p>That be the update!<p>Mr. Florida ;-)

You're doing really well MrF, hopefully she will give him up eventually soon and you can start working on your marriage proper. <p>If she's just wants a friend, you have to respect that (as you are). Try not to LB, just make deposits and plan A. Don't forget to look after yourself and your own emotionally health too. schedule time for you to recharge.<p>keep on rollin'
SH

Thanks Seahorse and your advice is well taken believe me. After my last post last night, about five minutes later, my W asked me for the url for THIS website. My heart about stopped lol.... I asked her again what it was she wanted to just be sure.... Anyway, she found all my posts, read them all and told me that I received some great advice and then said just keep on with Plan A.<p>Wonders never cease lol.<p>Mr. Florida [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Mrs F, If you read this, why don't you check out some of the concepts, etc? Your H & you should have a great future together.<p>MrF, you're doing fine<p>SH<p>[ June 13, 2002: Message edited by: Seahorse ]</p>

Lookin for an update!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Mr F? Mrs F?<p>How's it goin?

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Sorry for the delayed update SeaHorse... we have been out of town for a few days. We having been basically doing GREAT! We are communicating really good and basically just having a good time with one another no matter what we are doing. Of course, Plan A is still in the works. More later, we just returned from a very long drive....<p>Mr. Florida [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Hi MrF, thought we'd lost you, but no news is good news it seems. Keep it going, keep it slow.

Good morning to all.... just an update. It has been a while since I have posted any updates for those who have followed my dilema. My WS and I are into the full recovery phase now and doing fantastic! Each day is better than the previous and we could not be happier! Thanks to Plan A.... and to everyone here who has given me support and suggestions!

Good for you MrF. I'm so happy for you.