I haven't posted in a long time, but I had to write about my experiences over the last two weeks. My WS has been arguing with me about our counseling sessions for months now. Typically S tells me the night before or several days before that S is not going with me. This happened twice in the last two months, and I just went by myself. The MC wasn't really thrilled about that I don't think, but there were things I wanted to know anyway and didn't really want to ask in front of WS. Some things the MC answered and others he just ignored. Anyway, after the second missed session, I decided my only recourse was divorce since I had told WS the alternatives were divorce or counseling. After a miserable weekend of S sitting in the house and watching TV/sleeping over the entire beautiful weekend, S met with MC by himself. The transformation since that day is incredible. I can only describe it as though the MC flipped a switch!!! I know my WS has a personality disorder, so I'm trying not to get my hopes up too high, but I am so encouraged by the changes I see. WS came home and gave me a bear hug, told me S loves me, and has been very considerate and loving for over a week. We meet with the MC at the end of the week, and I'm anxious to see how long this will continue. I know we have an extremely long road ahead, but this is interesting. The MC wouldn't disclose what he told S said during the session, but whatever it was, the effect was dramatic.
