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i love the movie the sandlot. i have watched it with both of my sons. made me feel like a kid again!!

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I'm going to jump in here with another one I could never find an answer for:<p>WW: (speaking about OP) We know what each other is thinking all the time. We can finish each other's sentences...

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AH:<p>My W used to do that with me all the time when we were dating and just after we were M'd. It's "cute" at first, but then the cuteness wears off pretty quickly whe you realize that the way she finishes what you're saying isn't always what you're thinking. Then, that further deteriorates into cluelessness, to the point you're more annoyed than anything to have your thoughts finished for you by someone else.<p>Hopefully, your W will get to the "annoyed" state before too long.<p>Good luck,

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"People get remarried all the time"
"If it doesn't work out, I'll come back" !!
Did he mean them or us?? Ha ha.<p>"I'm leaving you because you don't trust me"
"I'm leaving you because you SPY on me & follow me around"
"I'm leaving you because you told everyone I am having an affair"
He started affair with OW at work. In each others office constantly, often with door shut. Arrived & left at same time. Rejected me severely. Stopped any contact with me, at work! We drove separately to the same place!! Everyone but me knew!!<p>"She's just a work colleague"
" I haven't slept with her YET, but I will now since you're accusing me"
"You DROVE me to it" (Yet denies having affair!)<p>"You kicked me out of the bedroom"
AARRGH! He moved out of BR. I continuosly ask him to sleep upstairs & he refuses.<p>"I'm fine here"
"My back is bothering me"
"That mattress is too lumpy"
Reasons for not sleeping in our bed. <p>"She's a happily married woman, what would I want with her?"
When I commented their divorce was filed, he told me "oh yeah, Bob told me" (his boss).<p>"I'm not going to live in her neighborhood because you think I am having an affair"
When I told him she had already moved out of that house, he says "How do you know that, I dont know that, How do YOU know that?). This after I had already seen his truck parked at her new place more than once.<p>"You're spying on me. I left the truck there. I was testing you".
After he lied about being out of town or late leaving work, I drove to OW's place and his truck was parked there.<p>"Do you think if I were with her, I would be so dumb as to leave my truck parked outside?"
Thought I had stopped checking.<p>"we're just not compatible"<p>"You only married me for comfort/finances"<p>"The last 10 yrs were a mistake"<p>"I needed to ask her a question about a project"
At 11PM when she lives alone & he told me he was "on the road" driving home. Also when he said he had to stay out of town to go back to office.<p>BLAH, BLAH, BLAH<p>[ May 28, 2002: Message edited by: cantletgo ]</p>

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Originally posted by cantletgo:
<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>" I haven't slept with her YET, but I will now since you're accusing me"<hr></blockquote><p>bah-haaaaaahhhhhhh
[img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p><sorry> that's ultimate fug, huh? sometimes you JUST gotta laugh.... [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ May 28, 2002: Message edited by: Faith1 ]</p>

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<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Cantletgo's Fogged H said:
"I haven't slept with her YET, but I will now since you're accusing me"<hr></blockquote><p>OMG! That is priceless! A true fogged WS Quote if I ever heard one.

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Has anyone heard this one?<p>This (making a choice) would be SO much easier if I didn't love you (the BS) so much!<p>Hello???<p>KK

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I'm glad that I have a great sense of humor - here's some of my favorite "fog talk" from my WH...

"The OW said she'd like to talk to you & tell you that you're a fool for not taking care of a great guy like me"

Gee - just what I need - advice from OW - she's obvioulsy got HER life so under control! LOL

"If you had been with me, this wouldn't have happened!"

Excuse me?! With him 24/7? Be a "velro-wife"? ???

"I wish I could combine you two, (me & OW) - you'd be the perfect woman."

"She (OW) isn't a bad person - stop referring to her as if she is some kind of a monster."

"She (OW) feels bad about this - she went to church and prayed about it."

"I want the house & the dog - the only two things I've ever loved."

What about me and 10yr old DS!??

"You'll get everything - I'll end up living in a shack or in someone's basement."

Like I'm suppose to feel sorry for him? HA!

Then a progression:

1. "I'll drive by the house and the grass will be 9 feet high and the paint will be peeling - you won't keep it up."
2. "I'll drive by the house and see some OTHER GUY taking care of MY yard and house."
3. "You'll move a guy in that makes $90k a year and you'll have a landscaper to take care of the yard."

That last one sounds good to me! LOL

"I got more BJ's from OW in a couple of weeks than I have in 14yrs of marriage to you!"

Not physically possible unless they were 1 minute each!

"Give the NEXT guy you are with a BJ once in a while - he'll appreciate it!"

"I think if you just listen to me, we don't need the Marriage Counselor."

Oh,Honey...- YES, we DO need the counselor!!!

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Okay, I love this long list. There are so many phrases that my WH has been using. The latest one that really got me......(we just separated last week, found out about EA 6 weeks ago) Me: "Are you going to sleep with her?" WH:" No, I couldn't do that to you until"....could not finish sentence. also, WH: "I have to be alone to see if I can make it on my own". (he is at his shop, where he has had all his contact with her by email and phone). also, WH: "I wish I could do this without hurting you" "I had no idea this would hurt you so much"

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How about these:
1. She listens to me and we discuss things that I don't discuss with you. (Never mind that I could tell him what the last book that he read was all about)
2. This isn't her fault, this is all my fault. (Never mind that she was married too and they ruined 2 families)
3. I love you but I'm not In love with you (This one is well known). When asked if he was in love with OW (Told me yes).
4. This is one of my all time favorites. Right after we seperated "We'll get through this, everything is going to be o.k."
5. In session with MC he is asked if he is seeing her "Response is no and that he would tell me if he was" BIG LIE. Two days prior he had lunch and dinner with her and still can't believe that he would actually lie in MC's office.
6. We haven't been happy for the last 2 years.
7. We've grown apart from each other.
8. Didn't want to talk to you about my EN's because you were going through so much at the time.
9. Can't believe that you went to the GYN and had STD tests done. What if I have to go in there and they will all know that I cheated on you. What? I haven't had the ability to get pregnant in over 13 years. What makes you think that you would have to go in there. His response: There might be an emergency. Told him he is living with a lot of mights.
10. Since I had the tests done he might as well sleep with her since I already think that he did. Tells me this after I find out that she was at her XH's place looking for lingerie. Hummmmm what would make me think that they were sleeping together?

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