I was attempting to get IC/ MC through a firm not far away from home. I asked for the therapist to call me so i could speak with them before my initial meeting.So i could get a little perspective on their principles<p>When the therapist called me i asked him if he used harley principles.(which he had never heard of)
then he asked why i felt i needed therapy
i explianed to him about H EA 2 years ago and how i wasnt handling it well and also how i have been depressed am taking Zoloft and some other minor issues in my life that affect my behavioral health.<p>this therapyist said that if i am stil lresenting my H after almost 2 years then he doesnt feel theres much that he can do for me or my marriage. and doesnt see much promise in my marriage lasting
i told him that he was a d1ckhead and i wouldnt go see him if his income depended soley on me.<p>but man how depressing can it get when a therapst says i cannot help you??

That sounds like a counselor you don't need to go to!<p>Soooo.... find another one! They're out there! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Why did you change your name?

Hey .... that's DOCTOR [censored] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Find a better IC/MC .... one who actually has a brain.<p>Pepper [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]

Faith,
if you reply to this it will be your 2000th post !!!!!!! WOW <p>anyhow i change my name now and them to keep OW at bay from replying to my posts. not to mention i cant find a name that i really really like

<<i told him that he was a d1ckhead and i wouldnt go see him if his income depended soley on me.>><p>Couldn't have said it better myself, names. Geez, what a loser. If I were 10 years old, I'd be making the "L" sign on my forhead. Think of all the people's lives that jerk is messing up.<p>I'd keep trying to find a therapist. Talking to them by phone i smart ... you saved yourself time and money. I, for one, totally understand that the residual affects of an affair are still hanging on after all this time. We're not robots who can simply "deprogram"...I wish! <p>Good luck, and don't give up!<p>at peace

Darn!!! I forgot to PARTY LIKE IT'S 1999!!!!<p> [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>hehe... well, you have the privilege of being my 2000th post!! Thanks for calling that to my attention!! I believe 1000th was when I announced that I received divorce papers.<p> [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Makes sense about the name....

Allthegoodnamesrtakn,<p>So sorry to hear that. I would have had a hard time believing that therapist had any type of degree. What a jerk. You can find great therapist/marriage counclors in your area at - www.therapistlocator.net
Good luck
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Thank you everyone for you quick reply and as always your support<p>Im my last post the depression was overwhelming me and when a MARRIAGE therapist says that to you its like a slap in the face ...how much more negative can you get when a LICENSED Therapist says you 2 will never make it?<p>just makes me wonder if maybe hes right..
abeit things have been better since H and my discussion on how his EA is STILL affecting me.<p>Due to my Insurance my choices for Therapists are extremely limited.
so i guess im out of luck and out of help.

Isn't that why doing a little pre-therapy interview is a good idea? So you can stay out of the offices of the Dr [censored]? (and hmmm, really a doctor?)<p>We had a rather wretched first counselor, far more depressed than my depressed husband. And since my H was denying any A...the C told me I was a micromanager...er...I wasn't even macromanaging very well. A little transferrance Mr C?<p>We also tried our pastor, which was good a couple times, then...not.<p>The next one was terrific! It's been over a year since we've seen him, and I ran into him out rummage saling and he gave me a good 10 minutes of checking in/catching up and told me he'd probably call my H to go golfing [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] . He's also an ordained pastor so his professional behavior is more like that of a pastor than psychologist who wouldn't indicate any recognition if they met you on the street, and personally, I'm more comfortable with not being avoided by someone who knows my deepest secrets.<p>He also was in a counseling ministry that worked by donation, something else you might want to check into.<p>Know what you need.<p>Good luck!<p>[ May 20, 2002: Message edited by: Lor (Lor) ]</p>

Also wanted add just because your insurance company doesn't list a certain doctor doesn't mean they will not take your insurance.<p>I had the same problem when searching for a IC/MC the list of providers my insurance co. supplied me with was 4 therapists long. I finally resorted to going to the phone book one by one and calling all of them. I found almost half accepted my insurance and ended up with a list of 7 to do phone interviews with. We ended up with a really great one.

Dr. DHead
Dr. Fartbreath
Dr. Moron
Dr. Outoftouchwithreality
Dr. Dork
Dr. Jerk
Dr. Wayoutofline
Dr. Imbicle
Dr. Notinamillion
Dr. Awful<p>My suggestion (as I am out of rude names for the moment) would be to REPORT that doctor. To anyone and everyone.<p>E