It has been 8 months since DDay and I am still confused. I was posting in the beginning ( I lost my information) but have been just reading since. Here is my story:<p>We were both previously married she 25 years and I 24 years. We dated for a year and a half and 1 month after our wedding she was involved (EA) with a man she went to night school with. After DD we went to counseling and things went fine. One relapse within a month but nothing came of it. He periodically calls her at work but thats it.<p>I suspected the A soon after the wedding and through some snooping had him talking about their conversations and plans. <p>Even though the EA is over, I can't seem to let it go. I am now to the point that I can't even get romantic with my wife because when I do I think about them together and what she confided to him about my romantic ability (lack their of). It has been over a month (lack of romance)and it seems to be getting worse. I have confided to her why but she is now at the point that she won't talk about the EA any more.<p>Any suggestions?<p>
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TJ,
I'm assuming you have read through the MB Basic Concepts, and other info on this web-site?<p>My suggestion is to think about why you fell in love with your W. Why you married her. Focus on the good things.<p>Have you 2 filled out the EN's Questionnaire and LB Quiestionnaire? The Harley principles are based on Emotional Needs and Love Busters. When couples strive to meet each others TOP EN's, and avoid LB's, the romance and passion can be rebuilt, and should never fade. There's also books available on this web-site, like His Needs, Her Needs, and How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love. I recommend those to you as well.<p>See if she will work together with you on exploring those topics. If not, work on them yourself. <p>Hope this help! Stick around a bit. Read and post often! Good luck!