I really don't visit this forum much anymore, but I wanted to stop by and offer a few words of encouragement to you all. I'm not going to bother anyone with my story, nor am I going to pretend to have answers to your questions and problems. But in the face of all of life's troubles, I do what you guys to know that recovery is possible. It's not easy, but it is possible. <p>After 6 months of Plan A, I was depressed, desperate and lonely. I made a big mistake and allowed myself to get FAR too close to someone who was not at all looking out for my best interests. It all backfired on me when my wife found out and I found out that she had not been in contact with the other man for several months. I had lost hope just when the fog was lifting and I have to live with that regret forever.<p>Am I saying to hang on indefinitely? Nope. I know how hard it is. Am I saying all marriages are reconcileable after an affair? Nope. But most are. My wife loves me. This I know beyond any doubt. I know it more today than I knew it on the day we married. I know we both made mistakes. And I know it is easy to resort to those same habits, but we are both working together now. It's an amazing feeling, going through life side-by-side rather than wandering in totally different directions. <p>I have hard days, but I also have a wife that loves me and will help me through them and try to understand just where we went wrong.<p>I most likely won't be checking for responses any time soon, so I apologize in advance if I don't get back to you. I just wanted to put in the good word and give an update to any veterans that might remember me.
