Hi, all. <p>As in most affairs, my FWH tended to lie or grossly exagerate what was happening in our marriage to the OW (#1 - #3) so he wouldn't look like such a horrible person to them. I talked to both OW#1 and OW#2 after each D-Day, and got to set the record straight on a few things. OW#1 thought we were "almost" separated, that I hated sex, that I refused counseling...that kind'a thing. She was surprised when I told her I'd been trying for months to figure out what was wrong (what I was doing wrong), and begging him to go to marriage counseling if he couldn't open up to me. He kept saying "It's not you, it's me". OW#1 was really ticked about being lied to and used like that (poor thing). <p>Pretty much the same thing with OW#2....<p>OW#3 situation was an EA, tho FWH won't admit it. MANY calls to/from cell phone, lunches when he was "working", lies of omission...that kind'a thing. Tho she knows EXACTLY what I think about the situation (caught them red-handed at lunch, I made a scene [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] ), I've never talked to her directly. H hasn't had contact with her since D-Day. <p>What bothers me is that H has admitted that they'd talked some about our relationship, and she knew he "wasn't happy". He claims he can't remember what was said or how often they discussed me/us, which I think is bullpucky. <p>Anyway, it's been almost a year since D-Day with OW#3, and I still feel humiliated knowing that she thinks I'm a terrible wife and he's so pitifully unhappy with me. I want her to know that we're happy and in love and have sex almost every day! The situation with her started just as it did with OW#1: Everything was peachy, then he suddenly withdrew from us after he met her. He flat refused to discuss what was wrong and why he seemed so "unhappy".)<p>Boy this is getting long.....sorry!<p>So, back to my question. Did any of you BS get to set the OP straight on the facts? Did it help with the feeling of humiliation that goes with being a BS? <p>Thanks SO MUCH for any input! <p>at peace (mostly)<p>[ May 28, 2002: Message edited by: at peace ]</p>