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Here's a something that happened today...<p>FWS Pre-recovery: "I would NEVER get anyone's name tatooed on my body except my kids"<p>FWS today after I asked her if she's get my name tatooed: "Let's go, let's do it now" She was not kidding. (we didn't)<p>This statement from her also has her eating some other words like "No promises, no guarentees"<p>I think a tatoo of my name on her body is as close to forever as can be guarenteed.
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"This M problem got nothing to do with OM at all it is all your fault".<p>"You are a bad karma"
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Me: Do you love her?<p>WH: Dont ask me that.<p>Me: ok , then that answered my question. If you didnt love her , you could say it.<p>WH: you see, you always hear what you want to hear! you see, we cant comunicate! You never understand me!<p>My Thoughts: How am I supposed to understand you when you can never give me a stright answer? What am I supposed to think?<p>>This entire A I couldnt tell you one stright answer hes given me.<p>WH: Im not always going to answer the way you want.<p>Me: Its a simple yes or no question.<p>Wh: you see, you always want me to answer the way you want me to.<p>>D-day. I told him to end the A completly. No contact what so ever.<p>>Next day. Me: did you end it?<p>WH: yes. its over.<p>Me: can you prove it to me?<p>WH: I dont need to prove anything to anyone. I feel like I ended it.<p>Me [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] knowing he was still seeing her) But you still have contact. You need to completly end it.<p>WH: Im not always going to do things the way you want me to. I feel like I ended it my way.<p>>granted, WH & OW still PA & EA.
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I know this may sound silly in comparison to what you've all heard, but I want to hear him say I have pretty hands.<p>I've always thought I had pretty hands, and did things to accentuate them. About a week after d-day, we got into a discussion about things to improve my appearance. (like clothing, hair style etc). Somewhere in the discussion I asked about manicures etc. He said that wasn't necessary and I said, "well, I've always had fairly pretty hands." To which he said, "yeah, I guess they are alright." [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] OW has dainty hands and since she works outdoors they are very tan. I think he was comparing them to hers at that time. I think it's time now to see if I'm still "inferior" to her in this (or any) way.<p>I've got a feeling his response will be different this time around. (5 months down the road). [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]
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Any time he's faced with the RESULTS of our divorce and his still being with trashy OW - "we all need to start the healing process, it's time to move on..." <p>That's going to make it all okay or all go away???? Not to me or my girls. He's still in la-la land, quoting OW.
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I want him to eat everything he said during the wedding ceremony and everything before and after the wedding that was nothing but a big fat lie--all the cards, all the letters, all the flowers, all the gifts--every single thing that conned me into believing he was different and would never do this to me (or anyone else for that matter!).<p>At least maybe all the crappy WS stuff he's said is more honest and real.
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