Wh is coming to visit girls today and bring son home.<p>Am not sure how the visit will go, just asking for your thoughts and prayers. <p> Have already lined up a friend to go to dinner with tonight, so one night is taken care of, tomorrow is church am sure he won't go there, another day down and Monday I will be going to the memorial services at the National Cemetary. Hey that's another day down, this won't be so bad after all!!!<p>I would love to sit and visit with WH but know that that is not possible as it would turn into DV talk, lawyer did not call so papers aren't ready to sign yet.<p>Think of me as you are out and about, I'd appreciate the thoughts and prayers that I don't LB big time!!<p>Love ya all, have a great holiday weekend!!! Take care and be careful will check in some over the weekend, wish I could be here more for those who the weekend may drag on for, sorry!!<p>Dawn [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

I am so sorry Dawn.. it is definite dv now? You are done with it? I know emotionally not... <p>You are in my thoughts and prayers today... Honey<p>take care of you!

Thoughts and prayers,
Estes

Dawn,
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope you have a great weekend! It sounds like you are going to have busy one! Take care of yourself Dawn.
BH

Hugs and prayers!<p>Cali

Thanks all,<p>Yes it has been a busy weekend, left before WH got here this morning, came home briefly said Hi! ran out the door just got home now and there is a note and he has youngest one with him, middle one is at work and oldest is sleeping. <p>MD and YD are both upset as dad is planning to leave tomorrow morning, has w 2 weeks off and is leaving in the morning to go get OW and move her to UT, remind you DV ppapers are not signed, and this is a big no no for his job to move her in with him. Don't think I will say anything to him though, this is one that the girls must handle for themselves. They must let dad know how it is they feel about his actions.<p>Just wanted to update everyone!!! And thanks for the hugs and prayers and thoughts they help to keep me strong, boy if I could only bench press what strength I fell, I'd be making records!!!<p>Dawn [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

You've done so good, Dawn. You've taken and owned your part in the problems in the marriage. You've corrected them, and now you know you have done everything possible to fix and recover it. You should have no regrets, Hon.<p>I wish you continued strength and peace. I know there are peaks and valleys still to come, and your D is still not a done deal. <p>As far as H moving OW to Utah and in with him, he hasn't dealt with his part yet, there is still so much for him to address. Don't assume all is nirvana in their relationship. It rarely is. <p>Much Love to you,
Jo

Hello Daybreak, My thoughts and prayers are with you.<p>Hugs

Just another update.......<p>WH left at 10 pm last night, I was sleeping, no good bye thanks or anything. Just left!<p>OD came and woke me up to tell me she was going to bed and that dad left. I was not happy, hadn't even spent 24 hours with his kids and they knew that he had 2 weeks off, so they were hurting. OD called his cell phone and handed it to me, we spoke, said that I did not appreciate the way he up and left and that I had hoped that we could set down and talk to son about what will be expected of him and stuff, WH said that he was getting gas and coffee did I want him to come back? said that that was up to him. He did, we talked, he had DV papers, he has signed them, my lawyer does not have them yet, so we started there and talked about a lot of things, to be honest that was the first time since August that we have spoken face to face about our relationship and the end of our marriage. I cried, that's me! But I did stay calm and did not LB or accuse or blame, I think that I did a very good job communicating with WH. Ger, I hope that you think so too!! He did stay, and is spending the day with our kids, am not sure when he is leaving but will talk to son before he leaves together. He made pancakes this morning and this was a big deal as it is the only time that we get pancakes, I cannot cook them right never have been able too. I think that that was what bothered the girls was that he had not made pancakes for them while he was here!! Silly!!<p>I have truly turned this over to God and wait for his next move or direction, am not sure where any of this is heading and have no hopes or expectations. The Lord will do what is best for me and my family! Continue praying with me please, many voices raised are many voices heard!!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Dawn [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Dear Dawn,<p>I am sorry to hear that you are in about the same situation.<p>I also have turned this over to God....I just hope he protects us through the court case.<p>Your H is really not showing good judgment about bringing the OW out to live with him. It doesn't seem to matter tho.<p>You will do fine. Anyone who has been a military wife that long will survive. I am just sorry you have to go through this. <p>I don't know about you....but I feel more peaceful now than I have in months. I still feel horrible about the shattering of our family--but I am glad I don't have to put up with him anymore...and I am definitely glad I don't have to put up with his behavior anymore. <p>Hope you have a good weekend. Things will improve for us...it just takes time. Take Care!!! Pat

Dear Dawn,<p>For all that you are going through, I am quite proud of how you are handling it. Big improvement from a few months ago. <p>The UT move will happen and all it's consquences.....U getting the pix of this point? The unknown stuff always shows up so he will see how bad this 'great' thing with OW really is. <p>Faith1's H reached that conclusion after spending about 1 year with the OW. You can follow her post. He appears to be regretting his decision but now has to eat his words and live with it's consquences. <p>The point to this story is that later your H may claim not to have known what he was getting into but he sure is making a lot of effort to end up alone and with nothing. <p>In the meantime, you have your children. Not making pancakes is no big deal. Teach your children to follow the instructions on the bisquick box, the trick is not to make the heat too high or too low. In my house pancakes are a weekend must. My 7 year old said, that is a requirement on the weekends. How about that? breakfast orders from a 7 year old??!??! LOL! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Take Care,
L.

Dawn,<p>Was thinking about you all weekend.<p>Hope things kept going well.<p>You are one strong lady.

Dawn
I hope you are doing okay. I haven't really posted in a while. I too am pretty darn close to being divorced. I am glad your H stayed and spent time with the kids. They need him to show that he still is there for them.<p>In time....everything will fall into place. We will all get through this......what a road our H's have put us on!<p>MAX<p>[ May 27, 2002: Message edited by: Feeling So Alone ]</p>

Yet another update.............<p>WH did leave Monday about 5:30 pm called at 11:30 to let us know where he was.<p>Called again this morning to let us know what the doc had to say, he had a nasty scrape on his leg and it looked infected and the leg was all swollen, I noticed this as he has a nice set of legs and one was way swollen, got put on antiboctic and was told to have it checked again when he gets to FL.<p>We had a very nice day Monday, spent some "family time" together, laughed and joked like before D Day. Then he and kids went to play putt putt. WH was anxious to leave Monday night you could tell, but did make comment that OW might not be moving to UT right away. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm<p>For as many times as I have wanted to "poke" and haven't, Things have been handed to me, so that I don't have to poke, but the same effect is achieved. Thank you Lord!!! Keep your prayers coming my way!! No word from the lawyer today will check with him tomorrow!!<p>Dawn [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]