Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 369
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 369 |
I think you can talk yourself blue in the face to OW. You are never going to get her to to realize that she (and others like her) are desperatly trying to justify and rationalize immoral behavior by saying the following.
#1. He only went back to her for the children. If it were not for his love of them he would be with me. He doesn't care about his wife at all.
#2. I am his true soulmate. They never had the love that we shared. So what if he is with her now and I am alone. He is still missing me, and is miserable with her.
#3. If the wife forgives the WH and trys to re-build her marriage than she is a stupid woman who is willing to accept a lying, cheating man. Forget the fact that they have been trying with every bit of ammo in their arsenal to get him to leave the wife.
#4.What they really want is for the MM to be happy, even if that means working out the marriage. Yeah right, and if ANYBODY believes that one. I have ocean front property here in Idaho to sell you!!!
These are just a few of the things that OW will tenaciously hold on too. You will never get a one of them to disbelieve her own motives. But, you have all my respect for trying... take care and be happy. Cherise
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 369
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 369 |
And I would be willing to bet other people could list a few more! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 369
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 369 |
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 2,909
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 2,909 |
I am not trying to get OW to change her mind. I just refuse to buy into stereotypes.<p>If people want their choices in life to be respected, then respect for others choices must also be given.<p>That is my point. However, it was lost in the influx of those who must live up to their stereotype... on both sides.<p>Venting and spewing anger doesn't empower you. It belittles you. You give over your power to the person/s with whom you have anger issues.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 369
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 369 |
EXACTLY. I recently gave up trying to get certain people I have in the past corresponded with, to see that they are deluding themselves. When and if they make the choice to quit pursuing hurtful, dead-end relationships they will realize how wrong they are. I don't know whether I am actually to the point of saying I have healed enough from H's A to not care about their opinions, or just tired of hearing so many people trying to justify doing something that hurts so many people, even themselves, whether they understand that or not.
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
466
guests, and
130
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,524
Members72,035
| |
Most Online6,102
Jul 3rd, 2025
|
|
|
|
|
|
