I have been with my partner 9 years. We have a 5 year old daughter. When I was 7 months pregnant I found lots of porn pics on disks hidden in the house. I told him to leave. He begged me to let him stay. When our daughter was 5 months old, again I found porn. At the time I was overwhelmed with the responsibility of a newborn and didnt want him to leave, so I didnt make a big issue. Over the years I`ve had my doubts, but always trusted he wouldnt be stupid enough to risk his family for a cheap thrill. I went out on Saturday night, and after checking the PC I found more porn. I confronted him and he denyied it and said I put it there and he was hurt I dont trust him.<p>I am sick of his bull. I love this man, but I cant live with someone who lies and doesnt want to deal with his problem. The porn is of a particular type. It is always asian women. As I am not slighlty built, or asian, this hurts me very much. He says he loves me and he is always showing signs of his passion for me, so why does he need this?<p>I want to leave but I have no where to go and I am scared of being alone. He is also denying everything which doesnt help. I am not an idiot. Should I cut my losses or can a man like this change? I have put up with so much other stuff from him too over the years, like him always quitting his job, but I have stood by him.<p>Please help

Jenny02, I would suggest you start non-judgemental dialogue with him about this PRONTO. My H ws same, he went to Thailand after her to cut a long story short.<p>Start healthly dialogue, find out what he's thinking and come back here to work it out. Do something now before it goes any further and why you still have the chance and before he lives the fantasy.<p>Good luck

Have you read the material on emotional needs? Maybe it's time to find out what emotional need he's fulfilling with porn. I'm not a porn expert as my H never has had much for it. I really think it's a doorway to other things. In other words if he doesn't address the porn issue, you'll be looking at other issues before long. (like sexual addiction, affairs, etc.) Most men I know that look at porn, don't see a problem with it. So your first step may be in relaying your feelings to him. Let him see how it hurts you. If he decides to stop, you might want to discontinue your internet service for a while to help him fight his addiction.<p>I hope you can get some replies that are more educated about this than I.