never mind.<p>[ May 28, 2002: Message edited by: kevco- ]<p>[ May 28, 2002: Message edited by: kevco- ]</p>

what happened? Whered ya go? U ok?<p>[ May 28, 2002: Message edited by: Faith1 ]</p>

Yikes! I read it Kevco ... and I'm sorry to hear today is yet another rough day for you. <p>I hope you're okay. We DO care yanno.<p>Jo

Thanks Res (et.al.).<p>I'll be fine, just another small step towards an outcome that I never wanted.<p>Guess I might as well spill it.... DW moved out of her GF house and into an apartment today. I sure would have hoped that her next move would be back home (again [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] ), but that's not in the cards.<p>I helped her move a bed and couch, and of course I was not on my best behavior, don't much see how anybody could be. <p>According to her, this is my best hope at restoring our marriage, but I just don't see it that way. I can think of a thousand analogies that fit to a "T" but none of them matter, and I don't want to waste my breath, or her time.<p>I just want for her to come to the only moral and logical decision that I can see, but I can force nothing.<p>I don't care like I used to. A part of me is thinking of hanging on just in hopes that he'll be unavailable to her when it's over. Most of me knows it's good and right to bebuild our marriage, and I believe it would work...but it's going to be so much harder from my point of view with every single day that she's "getting her head screwed on straight. (I think I could have found a better way to put that, but...).<p>I'm tired, I'm sarcastic, I'm lonely, and work sucks. Pretty good week I've got going.<p>On the bright side, we're supposed to have nice (maybe a little warm) weather for golf league tomorrow, that'll be a first.<p>Later all,
Kev

Well, I guess I'm et al [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] .... but I'll give you a cyber hug anyways... sorry bout all this. You've seen in my sig line that I've been on a similar roller coaster and it does really suck.<p>You are right in that the A won't last. SO you gotta decide if you will. <p>you can come here a spew - errr, I mean share [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] with us anytime.<p>you did the right thing helping her move. I think it may be time for Plan B? Love bank getting low... not able to control LB's... whattaya think?

{{{{ Kev }}}}} (like a Brother!)<p>Hope you are hangin in! This stuff is definately tough!!
It seems to me that for whatever reason your DW has some serious, compulsive kinds of issues --perhaps similar to my DW -- [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img]
I go to a support group & that helps, but I know it can be very draining, emotionally & physically! I know your pain.
Believe me this is a lot more about her than anything you did, as I think you full well understand. If she is similar to my DW, (and I don't know that she is of course; just using as an example, if you get my jist!) she has an illnnes of sorts, she is a sick person, not a bad person. And as I believe you know, again, if she is similar to my DW, she has to recognise these issues as problems before she will take steps to get herself better -- you cannot take responsibility for that -- you did create the problem, you can't control it & you can't cure it.
As you know, you can only focus on you.
A lot easier said than done -- believe me, I know!<p>Just wanted you to know I was thinking of you & you'll be in my prayers, brother!
If it's of any constelation, my golf game has sucked!, (along with lack of marital bliss) in the past week or so! [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] My situation may not be bad as such, it is just that I don't feel any kind of marriage enrichment things going on & I feel she is still in this Zone of sorts, even if she has not specifically acted out!
Peace,
HH<p>[ May 29, 2002: Message edited by: Hurrian Hoosier ]</p>