I don't know how long it's been since I posted here last about me. I see a whole lotta new names ... and it makes me sad that so many people have to be here.<p>So - an update:<p>April 2001: WH moved to Florida with slug.<p>January 2002: WH called from Florida to get my work schedule so that he could arrange for D papers to be served when I was NOT at work. He seemed to want to chat, but I politely cut him short and said good-bye. Didn't ask him anything about himself or his life.<p>March 2002: D papers finally served late at night by the sheriff's dept. yippee. Deadline of April something to respond. What's the point? Florida is a no-fault state, and after nearly 4 years of separation after probably 3 years of affair preceding that ... didn't make much sense to fight it.<p>April 2002: Response date came and went. I figured it would be final based on that. I got a form letter mailed by WH from the court indicating that a "summary judgment" had been entered against me due to my non-response - which was what I'd expected. Next day I got another form letter mailed by WH from the court indicating a May 2 hearing on the subject of "Dissolution of Marriage"... not over yet...<p>May 2, 2002: Came and went.<p>May 8, 2002: Final divorce paperwork came in the mail. Weird feeling. Called a couple of friends to let them know. Kind of anti-climactic in some ways.<p>May 9, 2002: Got an email from another friend of mine I hadn't heard from in a while - her husband saw my XH AT A LOCAL MOTORCYCLE SHOP!!!!<p>Guess who's back in town? Working at the same place he was working a year ago when he left? And with the same old slug?<p>I would have been much better if he hadn't come back. I've seen him twice on the road and live on the edge of apprehension about seeing him in the store or somewhere. I half expect him to call or show up - and I don't know what to do if he does.<p>And as I tell people slowly about the divorce being final, they are all saying "Congratulations!" And that doesn't feel right at all...<p>Overall, I'm doing very well. I keep busy. I am in no hurry to find another man - have to admit to a relatively acidic cynicism when it comes to the whole "man" thing... I'll probably get over that at some point.<p>Oh, and all my female friends and married male friends tell me how great, attractive and sexy I look... how come none of the single guys seem to notice that? [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Life is NEVER boring!

Hi Terri,<p>It HAS been a looooong time. So, May 8th was Dv Day and you learn the next day your ex has moved back into town? Too weird.<p>I'm sorry you ended up Dv'd, Hon. But I am happy for you to see an ending finally, you did all that you could do, you should have no regrets and now have a clean slate to begin a new life.<p>Why is your ex-H back there? And why only after the divorce is final? Do you think he could only face everyone after being divorced? Perhaps guilt? Or was this more manipulation from SLUG Bait. (she's lower than a slug, hence "Slug-Bait")<p>I guess you should prepare yourself for running into him or SB, Terri. It's bound to happen. I've been practicing what to do/say if I ever run into OW. I will simply look the other way and walk. If she speaks to me, she gets zero response. I don't even know if I'd recognize her, having only seen her one time.<p>I'm with you regarding "dating". Don't have any desire to date .... I don't want the complications and still don't feel I have anything to offer anyone.<p>I want to be on my own and feel comfortable in my own skin as a single person before even considering getting involved. It's lonely without someone special in my life, but I'm afraid I may hurt someone by not being emotionally available to them, I just don't think I could reciprocate any deep true emotions right now. Perhaps it's all based in lack of trust, dunno. <p>I'm really glad to see you post, Terri. Maybe you should hang out on the D/D board with us. We could use your wisdom over there too, yanno.<p>Love,
Jo<p>[ June 02, 2002: Message edited by: Resilient ]</p>

Hey Terri,
Good to see you again. And really good to hear you are doing well. <p>Could it be that a relocation didnt make everything happy in the relationship from hell? And werent they going to live with her Mom or somthing? Big surprize THAT didnt work. LOL<p>Ive given up on the relationship books and am working my way through the me books. Take care.

nice to see/hear/read from you Terri.<p>glad to know that you are doing well.

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by terri:
<strong>have to admit to a relatively acidic cynicism when it comes to the whole "man" thing... I'll probably get over that at some point.<p>Oh, and all my female friends and married male friends tell me how great, attractive and sexy I look... how come none of the single guys seem to notice that? </strong><hr></blockquote><p>Hi terri - I predict you and Jo and others in your (understandable) state of recovery won't be able to keep it bottled up for long. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Have faith that there ARE some good, single men out there.<p>[ June 02, 2002: Message edited by: worthatry ]</p>

Terri!!!! <p>Hey girl, good to hear from you. Wow just read your timeline, well it takes me back. U certainly went through a lot and now he's back in your neck of the woods with the slug? <p>I hear beer makes them shrivel up. Maybe Wat and the other guys can help you figure out what kind. I'd vote for a bottle of PBR (Pabst Blue Ribbon not psyco babble rabbit)!! Will even hunt down the bottle and send it to you myself! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Well I am glad you are moving forward with your life. As always, I will forever be indebted to your help. U gave me a swift kick in the right direction. <p>S3xy lady?!?!?! Well this world still has some good guys. Don't settle for anyone who offers less. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Hugz,

Hi terri,<p>Hard to believe he's back... I bet it would have been easier if he had stayed in Florida.<p>But I'm glad that you're doing well. Behave... [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]