Well, my WH is in the OW's city again. This is their 3rd visit in just 5 weeks. See my thread at <p>llama's story<p>for the latest information. I really could use a pick me up today. He says he loves me, wants me to find a therapist while he is away and says most of this trip he is doing by himself? (is that all supposed to make me feel better?)<p>I'm beginning to question everything - I'm needing a kick - anyone?<p>Llama

(((((LLAMA)))))))
hugs at ya!

Ok Llama,<p>Friendly MB KICK!!!! [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] LOL!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Now where are you on finding that therapist? Have you given your H small challenges to help you feel better? Is he willing to do them? <p>A while back there were several threads about what wives do for there H's on business trips. I think Zorweb was the one with the ideas. Little notes and gifts tucked away in his luggage. Different ones for different days. Setting aside time each night for special talks (no A or R stuff, just cuddly fun stuff - after family business matters are handled - may help put each other to sleep, etc). I don't remember them all but if you ask for some I am sure you will get more suggestions.

Thanks Orchid -<p>We are separated so it's difficult for me to do the little sweet things - on normal weekend getaways with his dad (golf outings, etc.) I do usually do that. <p>I see my therapist on Thursday, so I'll be asking her who she recommends for us that will be covered under our insurance, etc. <p>I haven't given him any small challenges. Right now I'm feeling like I'm doing all the work. This trip isn't a business trip - It's a planned vacation, etc. <p>Thanks for your post - any more suggestions?<p>Llama

((((((((((((((hugglez)))))))))))))))))<p>Don't worry llama, this is off your hands entirely now. You know what they say, if you cannot do anything about it, then, why duel on it?<p>Let him do whatever he has to do, just concentrate in yourself. I think you have had enough of his crazy schemes. It is time for you to stand up, gain your own strength, and just get the week and do something positive with it. <p>Organize something in your house that is desorganized, go get a massage, or a manicure, or just go get a complete makeover!<p>Get yourself a non-R book, read, get yourself some nice healthy food, go out and walk, watch 3 movies in a row :-D. <p>Do not hang around the house pacing in front of the telephone, go out and do something NICE for yourself! Get yourself a nice sexy summer dress, and some shoes to match.<p>Go play in the arcade, you can play fighting games, get some frustration out. ;-)<p>Pretend that there is no H, that there is only llama, and that llama is the number one priority for the rest of the week.<p>Have fun, go mad!... not too mad though.<p>(((((((((((hugglez)))))))))))

Alostwife -<p>Thanks for your reply. I'm doing all the things your suggested. I'm just upset today. I know i'll be better tomorrow. I've got plans almost every night this week and I will NOT sit by the phone.<p>Llama Hhugs!