My WW called yesterday about picking up some books here at the house, and I told her yesterday was no good, perhaps tomorrow. Well, tomorrow is now today, and my WW called this morning to "say hi". I asked her if she needed her books, she said no hurry, but she'd really like to come by this afternoon just to see me. Hmmm.
Of course, the pessimist in me thinks she's bringing over divorce papers.
But, I will expect nothing, and just take it as it comes.
She's meeting me at my house at 4:15.

Hey max,<p>Guess since I hijacked your other thread you had to start a new one. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] Just kidding!!!<p>The pessimist in me would be thinking the same thing. Then I'd follow the thought through and realize that my WW wouldn't bring the papers herself. She have me served so it could be official. [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I'm sure that it will be fine. Just keep up the plan A, and no LB's. Like you said take it as it comes.<p>I'll keep my eye out for how it went.<p>FL

Hey Max - Chin up! Yes, don't expect anything, and yes keep up the Plan A'ing, but don't be too pessimistic when she doesn't show up with papers. <p>My 6 yr. wedding anniversary was April 13. I made plans for me and my DH. We went to dinner and out to a bar to meet some friends, and then home for a romantic evening together. I wore an outfit to kill, that I KNEW he'd love when we went out - and well, nothing that night. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Anyhow, all along my DH had been thinking that I was going to serve him that night. [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] I'm not that calace! Well, to his pleasant surprise, the evening was wonderful and he thought I did a great job with my plans.<p>I don't really know what my whole point is here. However, I really hope things go well for you too. Don't be nieve, but don't be too skeptical. If she offers a hug or something, embrace the opportunity. Tell her thanks, and that is was nice to be able to hug her and that you've missed it (if you want to). In any event, my best to you this evening.<p>One day at a time. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

Maximus - I just read your other thread. I just wanted to add that your hug and reassurance of your love was fabulous. It's all out in the open now, there's not much for her to hide. She sees you as you and what she is risking. The hugs, the tenderness, the reassurance that yes you do love her, all work to show her how it's not worth risking losing what you have, but is so much more worth it to work to improve it.<p>Many times I looked to my husband with tears for hugs and reassurance. They helped so much, and sure enough he was there to offer them whenever I needed them. Funny, he's the one hurting the most, but he was always there to hold me up when I did too. It does help, believe me, it does.<p>You are doing great, and I pray for continued progress for you. Take care!

Well.....yesterday afternoon went pretty well. She had said she'd call as she was leaving work around 4pm....but she didn't, and pulled up to the house at the same time I did.
We came inside, sat down in the dining room and talked for about 10 minutes about some trivial stuff. Then she got up and grabbed the books she needed and brought them to her car. ( I helped)<p>Then we came back inside, and she walked down the hall to look at our daughters room ( which I have cleaned and slightly rearranged). She started to sob, and we went back to the dining room and sat down. We talked about our visitation schedule for june, and our daughter. My W was starting to cry, and she reached across the table and took my hand.
After a little more conversation, It was nearing time for me to go and pick up my daughter, but we couldn't leave. We stood in the kitchen for a bit, looking into each others eyes, not saying anything at all. Then I gave her a long hug and a kiss, and told her that I loved her. The tears were really flowing by now, and finally, we headed out into the garage.
Then she asked if she "could come over sometime".....like for dinner or something. She noted that I hadn't asked.
I said I'd love that, and that I'd been afraid to ask her over because I didnt think she'd want to come. After all, she did move out. (no, I didn't say that last part) [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]
Then I hugged her again, told her I loved her and walked her to her car.
She drove off, and called me about 2 hours later to "say hi".....and asked me to call her in the morning.
Not once did the subject of OM, A, or our M come up.<p>Perhaps another small opening in the fog? I'm not really sure what to make of these 2 recent visits to my house. I do know that seeing her and holding her in my arms just lights up my day....and reminds me how much I care for her.
Thoughts/opinions?????????<p>[ June 05, 2002: Message edited by: maximus ]</p>

Hey Max,<p>Sounds like the fog might be lifting, and it sounds like you are still doing a good Plan A. Keep it up.
<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>I do know that seeing her and holding her in my arms just lights up my day....and reminds me how much I care for her. <hr></blockquote>
That's great! I hope you get many more of these moments. They remind you why you got M'd in the first place. <p>I hope your W's fog keeps lifting. hopefully to the point where she will want to work on the M. (aka the really hard part.) <p>Keep Plan B in the holding pattern for a little while. For now just keep doing what you are doing Max. <p>FL

Hey Max,<p>Just wondering how you are doing. Please post if you get the chance.<p>FL

<<<FeelingLost --- Hey Max,
Just wondering how you are doing. Please post if you get the chance. >>><p>Hey. I still kicking! [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]
Had a great weekend with my daughter...took her to the beach on saturday, and went out on my brothers boat to another beach you can't get to by car on sunday. gotta love southwest florida.<p>As far as my WW goes...not much happening there. We still talk by phone everyday. Most of the conversation centers around the little one, but we've talked about our jobs, and some other non marital stuff. Each conversation ends with both of us saying I love you. Most times, I say it first, but she does too occaisionally (for whatever it means)<p>an interesting sidenote...........
This coming weekend is suppose to be my WW's weekend with our daughter, however she called me on saturday, and suggested that she bring daughter to me on saturday night so I can have her with me on fathers day. Then we took it one step further and decided that they'll come over in the late afternoon and I'll cook dinner for all of us....maybe BBQ on the grill or something. So, thats the plan.
I've decided to do my best to treat it like a friend is coming for dinner....but it'll be tough I'm sure. We'll just have to see how it goes....although I did think it was very thoughtful of my WW to offer to give up her sunday so I can be with D for Fathers day.
Needless to say, I'm looking foreward to it.<p>.....and BTW, how are things going for you???

Glad to hear that things are going good for you. Your pretty lucky to be in <p>Florida. Lot's of sun and beaches. Your D must love it. <p>It's good that you are still talking to your WW. Like you said treat her like a really good friend. Let her bring up the subject of your M and her A. I think of it like this. We are carving a new marble statue (M) with a toothpick. It can be done, but man does it take time. Hopefully the WS will let us switch tools later on to speed things up. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Sounds like your WW is doing a really nice thing, making Father's Day a family day. Like you've said before take it slow, and don't try to read between the lines. I think it will be another great oportunity for you to show your WW how good of a father you are. <p>Keep it up Max<p>I hope that things go good for you on Sunday.<p>FL<p>P.S. As for me my latest update says it all. Heres a link to it. Update<p>[ June 11, 2002: Message edited by: FeelingLost ]</p>

Happy Father's Day Max!<p>I hope that you get to spend a happy day with your D today.<p>FL

Thank you very much F.L.<p>Just got done mowing the lawn...gonna take my daughter to the movies and dinner this afternoon.
WW came over for dinner last night.
I'll post an update later.
BTW....tomorrow is our wedding anniversary.<p>
Have a great day.