Hi corgi!<p>Welcome to Marriage Builders, although I'm sorry your situation brings you here. Know that there are many here with similar situations. We are not professionals, but can provide support and encouragement.<p>Please read as much as you can on the Marriage Builders web-site. The Harley's principals are not a guarantee to save your marriage, but will provide YOU the best chance of personal survival, and provide a plan that may save and improve your marriage.<p>There's a couple of links in my signature line you may find helpful as well. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>You are not sure how long you can wait? I bet you will find that you are willing to learn some things, as well as work on yourself while you're "waiting". You married for better or worse, right? So, plant your feet, and roll up your sleeves, and see what options you have. I was VERY surprised, AND relieved when I found this place, and learned that there was actually a chance for survival from an affair!! My marriage didn't survive. My H went running very quickly into divorce - but I did everything I could, and I'm a stronger person because of what I've learned here.<p>Anyway, all that to say,
don't give up yet, k? Most affairs end within 6 months - 2 years. THEY DON'T LAST!!!<p>You'll want to learn about
Plan A and implement that immediately. I'm glad you 2 are in counseling. Plan A is about learning what your H's top
Emotional Needs (EN's) are, meet them the best you can, and learning what
Love Busters (LB's) are to him (things that cause his Love Bank to diminish), and learn to avoid those at all costs. You can find more info about these on the MB web-site, and on the links in my sig line, as well as reading many of these posts on ths forum.<p>Good luck to you. Keep reading and posting!
