This is just an open thank you note. I was a WS and found this site by accident, if you believe in accidents. I came here to justify my A so I could continue doing whatever I wanted. And I had plenty of reasons I could use to justify my behavior. But the more I read and learned here, the more I realized the pain I was causing my H.<p>I want to thank each of your for sharing your stories, your hurts and pains, and your continued faith in your marriage. Reading these over the last 2 years has helped me to move forward with my own marriage. To look past all the things that get under my skin and to learn to see my H for the wonderful man God created him to be. I had to look deep to go back and see the man I married. He is still in there and I am learing how to draw that man back out. The junk of this life have intruded so deeply into our lives that we found ourselves moving in totally seperate universes. Now I want those universes to join up again and move in the same direction.<p>It gives me hope and courage as I read here. It fills me with heart ache as I read of the pain experienced here. But then great joy as I see the progress others are making. I hope that some of my experiences will help others to hang in there. to not give up. and to do the right thing.<p>God bless each one of you as you struggle thru a situation not of your own making.
Debbie

dlm,<p>I saw this post and thought I would reply. It is good to hear that your marriage is on the mend, but don't forget who did the really hard work; you and your H.<p>I do hope you will continue to come by and offer others here you advice and wisdom. <p>God Bless,<p>JL

Debbie,
Thanks for the sweet post to all of us BS's. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] You're such a thoughtful lady. I've been wondering aboutcha lately. We are all lucky to have stumbled across this place, and lucky to have each other.<p>God bless YOU and your continued journey.<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

DLM, <p>It is certainly nice to hear from you and in such a pleasant way. Us BS' may not know how to take a compliment!!! LOL! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] Please bear with us. <p>I am happy you have been able to move forward in your life. May your future with your H bring many happy times and blessing. That does take work on the part of both of you but well worth the effort. <p>Take care, [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
L.

thank you for the kind words. I have learned so much here. And I recommend this site to all my friends whether their marriages have gotten this far off track or not. There is so much to learn to making a marriage work and work they way we want it. And so much to avoid. ON here we can learn so much from each other if we choose too.<p>I am so thankful that a place like this exists and it there for both spouses of an A. If one chooses to learn and grow and move forward, this is the place to come.<p>thanks again, all. my prayers are with each.
debbie<p>and faith, you have been a very big blessing in my life. thank you.

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