Hi LHM & FHO -<p>Just checking in with you. H comes back from OW's city tonight. You can see my post for anything new, although I think you're already caught up on everything.<p>He wants to come by tonight to get his mail, etc. and it may be late. He says he'll call from the airport and if it's too late, I can put it on the porch for him. (his apt. is about 40 miles away from home and our house is on his way to apt from airport).<p>He asked me to do 2 things while he was away - find a therapist - DONE - got several referrals and he knows this and said to me on Friday that he would call his insurance company, etc. and make the appointment, etc. <p>The other was get information to a jazz concert on June 19th - DONE - tickets are $30 each and I'm pretty short on funds right now, so I'm thinking about suggesting we go "dutch" somehow. <p>I'm still a bit nervous about starting couples therapy. I honestly don't think he's ready - I know I'll just have to wait and see.<p>How were your first weeks of recovery and what transpired?<p>Llama Hhugs,
Llama

I'm not either of the ones you mentioned....but I had a couple of questions.<p>What makes you think that your H isn't ready for counseling?<p>Do you consider yourself and your H to be in recovery or on the road to recovery?

Hi Miss Priss!<p>Thanks for your questions. Well, my hubby is still in deep fog. He's careful about not surrounding himself with anyone who will say what he is doing is wrong. He says he wants to work on our marriage and at the same time he says something rude about his former therapist who he quit when she made a comment about his crazy purchases since our separation and like that----POOF----he's outta there!<p>So, I've decided that I'm committed to working on us and can't speak for him. I'm concerned that he still isn't ready to face his stuff and will get angry (one of his probs) and walk out. Mentally, I do need to prepare myself for that - cause it is realistic that it could happen. <p>Did that answer your question? As far as recovery? No, we're not in it yet. I think I'll be able to answer that after our first session with a therapist. <p>He gets in tonight late, his mom is picking him up from the airport and he says he wants to eat with her (aka wants to talk). So, this could be a good thing. <p>Tell me more about you.<p>Llama Hhugs!