Thanks for answering my questions and reposting. I don't get here as often as I used to. <p>As for knowing my story....sorry.....TOO MANY links to be able to post them in one post....LOL<p>Short story:<p>My sister found H kissing OW in OW's car one morning..H was her boss..told him to tell me or she would.
I had my suspicions before this...he denied it.
We decided to work it out.
2 weeks later the OW's H calls me and let's me in on what he JUST found out....continued contact.
H left...stayed with his parents. Came home under false pretenses 5 days later.
2 months of my own hell....not trusting....talking to much....and then I get another call from OW's H again....continued contact.<p>H leaves again...this time staying in hotels with the OW....at her expense.
Easter Sunday of 2001...H and I and our daughters meet at his parents for dinner.
Me and the girls left for my families outing and H and his parents had heated words....his parents disowned him.
I decided not to go to my family outing for some reason......H ended up at OUR house....walked from his parents house....LONG WALK.
H not sure why he eneded up there....said that it must mean that he was meant to be with me and the girls. This was after 6 days of him being away.<p>2 1/2 months go by....very rocky....me not knowing how to deal with withdrawl.....which really never took place since he never stopped seeing the OW. Went on family vacation and 2 weeks after we got home H said he was unhappy....didn't love me and couldn't. He'd tried everything he could think of to make himself love me...just couldn't. OW supposedly didn't have anything to do with this....I later found that to be a lie.<p>H finally moves out again.....my sister takes him in as a roomate since she is getting divorced. In her opinion....some things just don't work out.<p>Seperated 1 month and H starts actng wierd....calling ME more often....inviting ME along with him and the girls.
I get to the point where I am over it....actually went on a date.<p>H went nuts....though still seeing the OW the whole time. I accepted it...even set up a time and a place for the OW to meet our daughters.....had to leave the building when this happened. Was NOT a good idea.<p>H still contacting me more and more....actually talking about us possibly being back together....during this time I actually became the OW....he was sneaking around to be with me.....lying to the OW....finding excuses to not be with her...so and so. I put an end to this and told him that I couldn't take having what I wanted and then having to leave him knowing that he would go and be with her when I left.<p>Early Septemember 2001 H tells me that him and OW were not getting along. Didn't help that my H didn't like her kids. Says he is going to break it off with her. I told him that I would believe it when I saw it. Not pressuring him to come home at all at this point....just being there for him.<p>End of September....H and OW mutually call off relationship.<p>2 weeks later H is FINALLY committed to working on our marriage....and asks me and the girls to move in with him.<p>She worked there for 2 more months...but not under my H....they had their annual shut down around Christmas and she never went back to work there. She eventually got back with her now XH and they have moved to a different city.<p>We lost our house because of my H's A....are financially depleted....and live with his parents until we can afford to rent a house.
The last time my H left he had everyone convinced that the OW had NOTHING to do with it....and when they thought the time was right they made it public that they were together.
My family accepted it....his did not.
His parents disowned him...asked for all their keys back and refused to speak with him.<p>Now....as I look back on that...even though I'm not far into recover....it seems like someone elses story.<p>It's been rocky for me and my H....but we have a totally new relationship...and we work on things daily.....even today we still have things to work out....but we do it together now.<p>I just had to bide my time and wait for the A to die a natural death....I found out the hard way that you can't stop it by forcing it to stop.<p>Hope my info helps in any way....feel free to ask any ?'s you may have and I will elaborate more of my story.
