I've posted here sporadically, but thought I'd throw this in to give hope to those sitting it out in Plan A waiting for A to end.<p>Well, the bloom is now REALLY off the rose. Yesterday WW said that OM spoke to ex-fiance. WW is now feeling "agitated". OM's ex-fiance (whom he left 10/01--so he claimed) apparently is in dire financial straits and may become homeless. Looks like he's gonna take her back in. Wow. Looks like OM had more feelings for a trainwreck woman than my WW. At least his ex-fiance is truly available and a lot less trouble than my wife was worth. C'est La Vie. <p>So, me to my WW... "what about the true romantic love? He said he wanted to marry you? (and in front of my face, mind you!) He introduced you to his parents?!! [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] He said he was willing to wait 12 YEARS for you (after our kids are grown)? Huh, huh???" Yeah, right. Remember, this is the same guy who went on occasional lunch dates with my wife in the past when still engaged to fiance in years gone by! Now it comes out he had feelings, or whatever, all along for ex-fiance while attaching my wife to a yo-yo. Oh well. (Come to think of it, and no offense to BS's here, maybe his ex-fiance would be better off living on the streets than living with this womanizer...)<p>Lucky for me, my WW has spoken to Jennifer a couple times already. Despite that, WW had still refused to break it off since she needed "more time to think about it". A couple weeks ago WW called me to say SHE was breaking it off, then proceeded to go on a date that evening with OM! She did come home that night admitting that she was now seeing the dark side of him--vague feeling of him not being trustworthy, keeping other women in the loop, making her an ornament, not asking her how she was doing (unlike me), expecting that she would simply run to him, etc., etc.<p>This morning WW started talking more seriously about a no contact letter and maybe honesty about the details of the A --a conversation SHE is initiating. She had been resistant as recently as 2 days ago because she thought if we switched piano teachers on our kids, it might "look a little weird" to them and to our friend neighbors who have a kid with same teacher (The master of deception cannot even trump up any easy excuse for switching teachers? Ideas anyone?). But that was then. Maybe she's less interested in even facing HIM again after yesterday's revelations. We'll see. <p>So the light at the end of tunnel is not only there, it is getting brighter. There is still work to do. WW has read some MB concepts but is highly skeptical that meeting EN's will lead to romantic love since, she claims, she never had them for me. But then, the A is NOT really over!<p>How did I make it to this point? Emotionally, I don't know (a tip: exercise, do other activities to keep your mind off it). Early on, I thought my wife and I were through. But then I found out about MB, read SAA, and embarked on Plan A. Considering what eventually ended up happening, it showed that with a good Plan A, you really can apply indirect pressure on the A. The OP can't slip up and the WS has to struggle more and more to justify the A. Add in an OP with the integrity of a rat and you've got a pretty good chance.