My H called me crying saying that his father is dying. He came over for about 30 minutes, cried on my shoulder, I prayed for him and his family. He gave our kids a kiss goodbye, then spent the night with his girlfriend for comfort. She drove him to the airport and now he is with his family until his dad dies. My father-in-law (who is dying) told me last month that he was praying for our marriage and that he would speak to his son. Do you think that this might be the turn around for my H so that he realizes he needs to come back to God and his marriage? It was so hard for me to watch my H in pain knowing that he preferred to be with his girlfriend for comfort than with his W and kids.

Moving...<p>First, I am sorry for the pain you are going thru. My father passed away last month and FIL has been diagnosed with cancer, so I know how difficult this can be. <p>I don't know if you are close to your FIL, but even if not, he is still family...<p>As to your question...I think, sadly, that outside forces...no matter what...will not likely influence your H and his relationship with OW. That has to come from inside him. <p>I think you know that and I think that you know this won't work if he feels it was something external that forced him to do something he is not ready to do on his own....<p>I am sure it was very difficult to try to comfort your H and then know he was leaving for someone else...<p>Once again, I am so sorry you have to go thru this...work hard to be strong for YOU and your children....<p>Best of luck <p>E

Thanks Elad:<p>Thanks for your reply and I am sorry to hear about your father. My father also is not well, having heart bypass and then a stroke. I can truly understand the pain my H is going through.<p>Somehow deep down I do not think that this experience will change him either. I havent really tryed Plan B yet and have held off until all this is over. I am not too close to my FIL but he is a great man and has been good to me.<p>thanks for your reply,
Kim

I hope that it is the event that will bring him back to his senses, but I would caution you about getting your hopes up. After my first husband left me in May 1999, not even the death of our son in 10-99 brought him back. And he was at my house for days after our son was killed.