Hi all - I haven't been here in quite some time, but I am now in need of advice. My story:<p>dday by WW - 7/01
M - 12 1/2 years
known each other 20 years
3 kids - 9, 7, 4
WW moves out - 2/02 - needs her space<p>We have been seeing a counselor once every few weeks, but he has not been very effective. Not sure if it is him or not. I want to work on our marriage and want WW to move home. She says she is not ready and continues to want her space.<p>Not sure of status with OM. Have not really discussed him at all. I am staying at arms length giving her the space.<p>C says that we have differing objectives right now and that we cannot move forward until she decides what she wants.<p>We share the kids on and off all week. The kids know nothing about OM.<p>I cannot understand why she will not even try to give us a chance - especially for the kids who are constantly telling her they want her to come home.<p>This is driving me nuts. I love her despite what has occurred - she knows that - but continues to ignore it. I also catch her in lies but I do not confront her about it - what good would it do?<p>She barely communicates with me - only about the kids - when others speak to her about what is going on, she is silent - it's like talking to a brick wall.<p>do I continue like this? What are others like me doing?<p>Any advice would be appreciated.<p>DD

dear DD-the fact that you ww is open to counseling is a good thing. maybe you should counsel with the harleys? they will give you the encouragement and support to do the things you are doing. it is so hard- hang in there.