I just wanted to share this advice I got from someone the other day. When I really thought about it, it makes alot of sense. A customer of mine told me this the other day after he asked me what my definition of marriage was. He is from Africa and believes the American view of marriage is all wrong. He gave me some enlightening words, and this one is really hitting home for me right now. He told me I could talk to my friends and family and seek advice from everyone I wanted to, but that when it comes right down to it, only you really do know your spouse and what you do needs to be based on what only your heart tells you, that your heart is your best guide. <p>It's hard for me to explain my H, sometimes I think of him like he is not like any normal person. I am lucky to have a friend that has known my H longer than I have, she is the one who actually set the two of us up. When I say that he acted a certain way, or got a certain look, she knows exactly what it is that he is thinking or feeling, like I do. I know that I have been slammed here for believing what my H says, for believing in him, but only I know my H the way I do, and I have to follow my heart and the path that it takes me on. <p>When you are lost and looking for answers, they are often looking you right in the eye and we have a tendency to either overlook them, or are in such a state of emotions that we let the emotions of the minute cloud the real picture.<p>I'm not saying that you need not seek the advice of others, but look within you for the answers too. It's easy to be guided by outside influences, sometimes it's easier than facing the reality of things, but to truly move on in any direction you go, you have to face the reality. You have to face it, deal with it, and put it to rest. That is the true way to get over the pain, the grief, the turmoil, and be able to rebuild you, and if your heart desires, your marriage.<p>Gather information from all that you can, but still rely on your heart to guide you through, because in essence, your heart is God, and He always knows what's best for you.

thanks, good advice. Honey

That is good advise. But I have a question. What do you do or follow when at one time you know in your heart that your marriage is your path. Even if the road is so rough and painful at times. And then later on down that same road, you dont feel that way anymore. And you dont know what to think or what to do. Your not sure what your path is anymore.<p>Do you get what Im saying? Do I make any sense or am I just all messed up?( Im am at plan A ,thinking about plan B)
PI

PI - I know how you feel, but you still have a deep down gut feeling, and sometimes it's hard to see. That's when it is time to take quite time with yourself to listen to it, to rejuvenate it. <p>Omly you know when it's time for plan B, and you'll know it when you get to that point. If you're not ready for it, don't do it, because you will not succeed at it.