My H told me last Thursday he was done. We agreed to hold off on going forward with legalities and such for a month, and not see or talk to each other for 2 weeks. (More details here.)<p>I am treating this as a combo of MB Plan B and Michele Weiner-Davis' After the Last Resort Technique. I want him to have a taste of what it's like to not have me around. Since Saturday, he's called me once and emailed me twice. I answered the phone call but have not replied to the emails.<p>What I'm wondering is - how strict should no contact be? Should I respond to the latest email simply acknowledging I received it and what he wants to do is ok, or should I continue a complete "blackout" of communication? [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Help! Thanks!<p>[ June 19, 2002: Message edited by: Jelly Girl ]</p>

Considering you don't have children, and unless there are pressing matters that CANNOT be delayed, no contact should be no contact at all.<p>Having said that, 2 weeks is probably too short for him to feel what it's like to lose you altogether, and the fact that there was even a set time for it is probably reducing the possible effects.<p>However, it may work for you, and I'm all for whatever works! Good luck!

I agree...no contact means no contact!

I actually have that exact statement on a post-it note stuck to my monitor!<p>It says,
"No Contact Means No Contact"<p>Underneath that it says,
"My side of the street"<p>That is all you can work. Your side of the street

As someone in the midst of Plan B right now, I can say that the more NC I "enforce", the more "upset" WW becomes... But I take that as a good thing, because I'm infering that it means she IS starting to feel what life is without me.<p>I've received 3 e-mails yesterday and today, all of which seem to have a component of "please reply back because it's official business" - but they're all fairly shallow attempts... so I will resist, even if I feel like I'm being mean.

Spacecase, mgm, Wiffle and J.R. - thanks to all of you for your replies!<p>Space, I think you're probably right that two weeks isn't long enough... if things don't change it will be longer, probably without an end date. I'll probably do a Plan B letter at that point.<p>Wiffle, the post it is a great idea, thanks! My therapist said something similar today - "the ball is in his court" - I have to remember that or I'm going to completely lose my mind.<p>J.R., good for you! Keep it up - I can definitely see now how hard it is... one night I found myself trying to think up excuses to call him and get him to come home. So far I'm not sure if the lack of contact is having much effect, he has apologized for "bothering" me and "intruding" and hasn't requested a response.<p>Part of me thinks that he doesn't think I can do this... and that's inspiring me to do it. I know he still loves me... I think he just needs to miss me enough to want to try to work on things.<p>[ June 19, 2002: Message edited by: Jelly Girl ]</p>