I just went to that Keirsey (spelling?) site that Faith recommended (it's in dreamland's post about the 5th dimension) and did personality tests for my H and I (just kinda guessing on his responses). I'm an idealist, a healer, which doesn't surprise me at all. He is a guardian, a provider, which also doesn't surprise me, and herein lies my epiphany.<p>Providers find it very important to protect the health and well-being of their loved ones, and to give them all the "stuff" they need. H and I have often had the argument in which he says he "takes care of me" cuz he has given me a house, car, everything I need. My reaction has always been that I want HIM and not a bunch of stuff, and that I could care less about the house, etc...that I could be happy in a shack (the idealist in me, I guess) if I was with him. I NEVER realized that this was belittling his biggest desire to provide for me. Wow! I guess I know how to react next time :-)

[img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>kinda neat, huh?

Very enlightening, Faith1. Thanks for the link :-) This may help me do a better Plan A.

Thanks Faith1, I'm a "Idealist (NF)". I think that's good. <p>Here's another site with a good Personality test.<p>http://www.thespark.com<p>You can compare your test with someone else's and see the compatiblity. My soon-to-be wife and I took it seperately 2 or 3 times and it always came back as 100% compatible.<p>They have other "tests" as well, mostly for fun.<p>TTFN - JB

Two years ago I took that test...even paid the extra to get the full report. Later I found the results I had when I took it in high school. Same outcome! Really opened my eyes about what makes me tick. My husband was also a guardian. At the time I determined us forever doomed because of that fact. But...such is not the case. I think that things are a bit more in depth than just 4 letters. I am an idealist...but I also have a very analytical brain. I took a "brain" test to show whether I was more of a right or left brain thinker, and I was right down the center. So while my husband may not possess my "idealist" nature...I can totally understand and co-exist with his hard working, rational type thinking. I think our differences compliment each other!