Hi All [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>For all who know my story my W and I have had very limited contact since she left last December.<p>I have also started the D process, I know, bummer.<p>I've been praying a lot on this. It has NOT been easy.<p>I called her last night to discuss some of the details of the divorce. Surprisingly we fell into a very kind, very gentle and in some ways, loving conversation quite quickly. No "i love you's, no I miss you's" or anything, just very comfortable.<p>She shared information about the stepkids with me, something she hasn't done in months. Her voice wasn't harsh at all, she sounded sad like last time I spoke with her.<p>It was everything I could do to refrain from telling her how much my heart yearns for her and the girls!<p>We didn't discuss the OM at all or our relationship or anything from the past. <p>The conversation was bittersweet and heartbreaking for me at the same time. Maybe for her too.<p>I woke up this morning feeling great!<p>I realized this Harley stuff isn't just the name for a loud bike! Wish I could afford one<p> [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I finally found the "forgiveness" phase and I'm writing my W a letter this evening.
The last thing she told me in her separation letter was "Please find it in your heart to forgive me".<p>Well, I have. I know we'll never be together again but I have forgiven her and still love her and the kids. <p>Believe me, I am feeling peace.<p>Thanks for all that put up with my posts. I believe that forgiveness, as difficult as can be, helps the betrayed more than the betrayer.<p>Thanks for listening [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

GETTING BETTER,<p>WHAT a nice thought, and I am glad you are at peace, not a bad place to be. some go their whole life and never achieve peace. SO GOOD FOR YOU. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Getting Better,<p> A poster here Faith Hope Love used to preach just this message here. Forgiveness is for yourself as much or more than the one that needs forgiving.<p>You know I think when your W receives that letter, it will break her heart. But, it will help her as well. However, when you send it I think it will help you even more. You are a good man GB, don't forget it. <p>You have learned a lot here. I hope you stay to help others as well.<p>God Bless,<p>JL

Hi Mom and JL!<p>Thanks for your responses [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] And thank you for the encouragement. <p>I am not one prone to profound thoughts but I certainly appreciate the people on this board. I feel like I should pay to be here. I'm lucky to have found this place.<p>Want to know something? <p>The next time I get married, If I'm lucky enough, It will be successful. Because of methods and principles I've learned here. <p>I certainly share fault for the failure of my first M and regret it more than anyone will ever know. My W is NOT a bad person, just human like us all.<p>Thanks ,<p>Faith, Hope and Love