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I've been looking over the books that are available on MB. I've seen many book titles being tossed around. Could someone recommend 1 or 2 to get me started? Which one(s) would be appropriate to give my WW?<p>If it helps, I am in Plan B, in the moddle of a divorce, filing for custody of children, WW has be having affair for 1 yr. Some indications show that she may be starting to come out of her fog.<p>Thanks<p>[ June 22, 2002: Message edited by: thejohnsmith ]</p>
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Divorce busting and surviving the affair. I think those 2 help a lot.
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Hi TJS,<p>Can I make a suggestion? Since you are particularly interested in books for your W, please rephrase the thread title to reflect that request. Something like: Know any good books for WS W? <p>Just a suggestion. Also please realize that even though you may get some recommendations, it may not be the ones your W may gravitate towards. It is a guessing game at this point, how to really help her but I am sure you feel the need to try so I wish you the best. Just didn't want you to get your hopes up too much. Some of it will stick but she may not act like it. <p>Small steps in the right direction is always a good thing. <p>take care,
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/\/\/\/\ bumping up for more suggestions!!!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>L.
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I don't think you can give any books to a WW and expect her to read them, and come around to your view. She has to reach some conclusions on her own. Steve Harley says you can't "educate" the spouse. <p>Wait until she shows some interest in working on the marriage. Signs that the fog is lifting are not enough. She has the conditions spelled out in your plan B letter, right?
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tmmx, thanks for your reply.<p>Yes, I do have things spelled out in my letter. She's suppose to be "thinking" about things right now, so she says.<p>If you care to read my story, I posted it on Plan A/Plan B named "Any advice from anyone". It's current as to my situation since I posted just today.
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"After the Affair" by Janis Abrams<p>It's fantastic! Really helped myself and my FWH to see our actions in a clearer light. If she isn't ready to read it, you should; it helped me while H was still in a fog!<p>[ June 23, 2002: Message edited by: mgm ]</p>
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