I am in my 7th month of plan A and have turned to counseling with Jennifer as I am approaching the end of A and the beginning of B. I have made some good progress with A. My WS was sure we would get a D, now she is telling me she thinks we will eventually work it out. Sounds good but she is still in love with him and even though I believe the PA is over the EA is strong as ever.<p>I have come to realize that plan B should not start if there is still some progress using plan A. This is becoming more difficult. I need some help from you Super Snoopers out there. She talks on her phone in the car. I bought an Olympus Digital Voice Recorder (DS-330) to see if I could pick some of it up. No luck, I know she is talking but I can only understand it when she raises her voice, too much background noise. This thing even has noise cancellation but it is not enough. Now I am considering buying the external microphone. I don't know if that will be any better. <p>I am not against taking it back and using one that is recommended, or buying a slightly used one. For those of you out there reading I have snooped before and it was brutal. It has its place and for me it is not all the time. However before I make the hardest decision of my life to plan B I need some good intel. So I am back to snooping.<p>Thanks
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Just a word or warning, in most states if not all it is illegal to tape in a car unless the car is in your name. I can understand your need to know, but don't do anything that could end up getting you in trouble. Try checking her phone to see who is calling her and who she is calling. She has to put the phone down sometimes. Before my husband and I really got into our recovery from his A, I would check his cell phone and pager when he was not around. The best time was when he was in the shower. Also check her purse, women keep everything important in their purse. Good Luck.