I haven't been on MB much lately. W and I sometimes come and read a bit and we still keep in touch with a couple MBers but most of you all probably don't even know us, but for those of you who remember us I figured I'd give a little update, and for those of you who don't well maybe a bit of hope. <p>We have come a long way since this time last year, descussions of devorce aren't a hot topic anymore, and talk of the As are a thing of the past....for the most part. It still comes up on occasion and I still get bummed out but we have excepted what happened and we have both started to move on with US not the As. We are still working on regaining trust, seems that is about the only area that takes the most to regain. To think last year at this time I was more depressed than I had ever been in my life. For those of you just starting recovery I can now say things do get better if you work at it and give it some time. I have to thank the MB community for their help, I doubt we would be where we are had we not had this place to turn for help so THANK YOU ALL.<p>I quit my job a couple of months back and we decided to move out of state, to Pennsylvania where I grew up. So, that I think is the start of our new life together. We're both very excited about it. We're in the process of selling our house right now, and we expect to move by the end of summer. We took a trip out east 3 weeks ago and we have our eye on a couple of houses if they are still on the market when we get there, if not we'll find something I'm sure.<p>Well, that seems like the short version of whats up with us.

Thanks for posting SEM! We are so glad that you and Keep Smiling are doing well in recovery!<p>You are right, that many current MB'ers probably don't know you, but some of us do, and remember the struggles you two had. <p>Your story is definitely one of hope, and a shining example of what's possible!!!<p>Please post when you can - both of you - but we're glad you are getting on with LIFE! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

I remember you guys, and I am so glad to hear things are going so well. I was just thinking about you two the other day, then I saw a pic in the MB album, and now here you are.<p>Such a long road you guys have walked. I am so glad it was worth it.<p>Love and light,<p>Jacky

EasyE,(SEM) [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p> I am so happy to see this post and hear that things are still on the right track. The past year was a killer year for you and KS. But, I knew you could make it, I KNEW it. <p> The future for the two of you will be very bright I think. And, I agree that this move will be the new start to a very happy and fulfilling life for you both.<p> Think about you guys often. <p> jd

Faith,
You were our little angle always there when we needed you. Thank you so much.<p>Nina,
Good to see your still around, you were always a great help. I see in your sig line your getting devorced, really sorry to hear, I always figured you would work things out. How are you doig with that, are you still trying to work things out or are you excepting it and ready to move on? I'll be praying for ya.<p>JD,
Thanks a bunch. Your right it was a killer year for us, but gosh seemed like when things couldn't get any worse for me you seemed to one up me [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] I couldn't ask for a better person to go through hell with, thanks for being there.

Good luck with your relocation! I'm happy for your recovery progress! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Hi SEM,<p>I am accepting it and have moved on to some degree. Since you have been away, stbx has admitted to an affair from before we were married (which I had surmised myself)admitted to the CURRENT OW's existence and even that he is living with her, and he will be bringing her back for Christmas...bleh. I WANT to be divorced when they get here...but I am so ready to live my life.<p>I had a lot of time for reflection, and I can look back and see that he was not the man I ever thought he was. <p>A lot of people thought we could make it, but none of us knew the extent of what stbx was capable of. We never had a chance since his early dishonesty coloured our whole marriage...I KNEW something was not right,and kept plugging away anyhow. <p>So I have gone from not wanting to be a divorcee to instigating the procedure myself. Who would have known? <p>I also knew you and Keepsmiling would make it, and so glad you are here to prove me and some others right. <p>Love and light,<p>Jacky

SEM,<p> Believe it or not I am still hanging in there. And things have gotten a bit better. Thinking of posting my own update soon, but don't want to jump the gun. <p> Might do that today, we'll see.<p> jd