I noticed a thread on this forum somewhere asking if anyone was Catholic. And that brought a question to mind (I am a "lapsed" Catholic... hold the title and the faith but don't really practice unless it's at the alter of St. Pillow on Sundays <g&gt [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] .<p>However, a few friends suggested we tried Retrouvailled. WE did that last Christmas, before my H confessed his affair. It was the pits.<p>Has anyone had any experience with that?<p>I think it was the pits because 1) it focused too much on "feelings" rather than problem solving on the outset (that does come later, although when that part came, H was out of here because of his confession), and 2) it does not focus on the behavior of marriage. <p>We attempted the dialog for a few weeks afterwards, and my H's came along as soooo insincere. Looking back it was because he was in his affair back then.<p>I'm just curious about that program's success. They claim a high rate of success in saving marriages. Didn't do a thing for us.<p>Married 24 years
4 Daughters (3 still teeangers)
D-day 3/06/02
I'm getting by and coping... bit stronger every day, but weekends are still very hard!

We did it way back. It's very much about communicating. We didn't know what to do after that. Fine, we put all of our feelings on paper but it didn't take us to the next level.
We did the dialog thing a couple of times after that but I don't really think we were mature enough at that point to make any use of it.<p>We both agree that MB is a MUCH better program.

We did Marriage Encounter - and my then WH didn't get much out of it.<p>I had wanted to go to Retrovaille but by then it was too late - although they say that even divorced couples attend. <p>I have heard that it only helps if both spouses have an open mind and are committed about saving the marriage. <p>Otherwise it's like us talking to our spouses about MB while they are in the fog. It goes in one ear and out the other - or simply makes them mad.<p>If there are any success stories, they would probably be on the recovery board.<p>K

<small>[ March 21, 2005, 05:16 AM: Message edited by: Lady_In_Red ]</small>

Odile, I remember that caveat now. And I remember them asking that when they called to enroll us.<p>Unfortunately H was so insistent that he wasn't having an affair at the point that I had no choice but to tell them, "no, don't believe so."<p>I should've told them what I knew... they are so manipulative when they want to hide it!