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WH called me yesterday to ask me to go sign the papers for financing the house.I told him i can't bcoz i dunno where we are aheading.
I had told him the same thing on D-day.He told me he won't force me to sign.Ever since, we've been still going out , seeing each other once a week -we live apart since we are married bcoz my mum is helping to look after my D.<p>I can't sign, because i will be in debt once i do that and i'm stopping work soon. Life will be hard for me and our child.
All the facts now point to him that he's just sticking to me just to use my money. He's been asking for money to pay his bills.<p>The house which we bought represent my hope for the family. Now it is in danger of being claimed back,unless i help to finance it.<p>I'm feel so helpless because this whole thing is in OW favor - that she can show she's standing by him through this horrible episode of him losing his home because of me.<p>The pressure is on us and time is running out.
I wanted to wait for the affair to die a natural death but this thing is forcing him to make a choice now and it is not in my favour.
I believe he is very deep in fog and in the A.<p>I will only sign if he choose to commit to the family.
Even if he will chose his family,he will still have feelings for OW and he might even get back with her.<p>I so wanted to keep a proper family for our child. His A is just getting in the way and i believe he sees it but just couldn't let OW go.<p>I'm willing to let him go, just waiting for him to make a choice now.I can't concentrate on my work now, just need him to listen to my feelings and that i'm not abandoning him.<p>[ June 25, 2002: Message edited by: Confuse n Lost ]</p>

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Don't sign...if he wanted to leave his family for the OW, then let her sign or pay his bills!!! Are you doing Plan B?

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Do not sign! Even if he tells you that he is committed to your marriage, please don't sign. He has demonstrated no committment to you, so I think you are very wise to see that.

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I intend to go into Plan B ard oct before this thing crop up but i think WH will go into Plan B himself soon...i really wish i have more time to let him see my changes in plan A.<p>I wish this is just a huge misunderstanding and miscommunication.<p>I just called him, he said he's borrowing the $ from friends and even selling off his cellphone. I told him that i'm afraid he'll blame me and he said he don't. I feel so much better...i guess i was looking at the glass half empty, instead of half full earlier on.<p>An advice i read on other posts comes to mind "You can't change him or make him decide but you can influence him by changing Yourself!"<p>Guess i need to relax now and be confident - kinda told him i was afraid of losing him too..yikes!!!
I'm gonna Plan A my bootie off... [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ June 25, 2002: Message edited by: Confuse n Lost ]</p>


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