I need some reality so I don't get my hopes up.<p>I have had 2 glorous weeks of attention which I have tried to put in perspective. Don't get your hopes up.<p>This thing is playing out like a fatal attraction. WH can't give her up like he is afraid of her. WH has throw himself into making me feel good about myself and doing all my favorite things. <p>The bizzare thing is my kids see him at soccer field arguing with OW. Last night I had to go (D had treats). OW stood within 10 feet of me staring. Remember last week she stood in front of my van so I could not leave. I didn't budge or act like her presence bothered me. My WH came over after the game and kissed me in front of her. I don't know what all this is.<p>I am okay because I have come to terms with a plan. I know I am doing everything I can and I cannot control his behavior but this aggressive behavior from OW is unnerving. Our friends know everything. There is much gossip around town about it. The OW approached our friends and they turned their back to her. It is almost like with OW trying to contact kids and WH friends, like she wants my life!<p>I haven't talked to my WH yet but both my girls have demanded that WH tell his "ugly girlfriend" to stay away from them or they will make a big scene. You would think if a 12 & 15 year old said this to the father they once addored it would make him decide something!<p>I know it could still go either way.<p>Translate the saga of my life [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Yes, you are being realistic. As long as there is contact with OW, you can't truly move into recovery. Take heart, though, that OW's actions & arguments with WH indicate that A is probably over. Are you suggesting your WH is afraid of her?!! Yow. Your behavior in front of OW sounds good--staying calm.<p>Hope she doesn't go off the deep end, though, and does something violent. What a psycho--just no self-respect at all.

Not sure I can interpret the changes and what they may really mean, but it DOES sound like progress to me.<p>It looks like he's willing to let her know in no uncertain terms what he feels; kissing you in front of her is very telling.<p>You are right to be cautious, continue to be. Watch, wait, evaluate...

I am so confused but at peace. I still want my marriage but I feel better about being alone and am not blinded by our history. I am being very good about not love busting even though all of our friends, family and children are. The pressure is not for me but from all the external factors. <p>I still think he may bolt to another city to escape both worlds. The last affair we moved. If only he had come to counseling with me and resovled his issues.<p>I am okay but I don't want to read too much into it although it does seem that he is growing closer to me as his safe haven. OW is so aggressive [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I hope too she does go off the deep end. She gave up he H and her kids to marry my WH. I don't think he was prepared for this. [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img]

The OW ran from me last night. Do you think she's afraid of me. Isn't that sweet!?!<p>WH continues to be attentive. We go on vacation in a couple days. I hope to enjoy myself.<p>I feel great this week. It is so freeing to not be boohooing all the time. I have more energy and feel like I can accomplish something.<p>I know next week will be another adventure but for now I can smile and feel the joy [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Have you thought about a restraining order against the OW for you and your daughters? Tell your WH about her actions (if he doesn't know) and that you feel it is in your best interest to get one. <p>This will also be a good record just incase she does do anything to you.<p>sty