<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Lexxxy:
<strong>T -- (and Space)<p>Plan A actions: No LB's. No crying. No begging.
Positive happy interactions when he's around. Continue with the positive changes. <p>Moving On: Planning activities with D and friends that don't include him. Don't question him about his activities -- and don't answer his question about yours. On nights that he's going to have D -- have some plans of your own.<p>He's starting to crack -- he's made a couple references to "coming back" and the kissing is a very big deal. So now is NOT the time to give-in, now is the time to re-establish some respect and boundries. <p>I think T's WH has had a lack of respect for her. She needs to regain some control of their relationship.</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Lexxxy
You go girl!! Great post!

I am so glad I read this post today. I have a similar situation. My h and I are seperated, yet, we have had S** twice. Now I have some ideas of how to hanlde things. Tomorrow I am going out with the girls, and oh He has called my cellphone, I just accidently missed his calls!!
I am learning!!
TD

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This thread is awesome. I wish I felt that free. Maybe once my WW comes back, I'll be a little more friendly with other people in public and if she questions it or gets upset I'll say, "Well, we WERE separated for a while. It's not like my life stopped just because you were gone."

Hello everyone,<p>Faith, I'm here. Thanks for checking...kind of caught up in work and couldn't respond appropriately until now. <p>I absolutely love the replies I've received!!! Kind of interesting that so many of you have found yourselves in similar situations. Doesn't make me feel so "taken in" by the lure...<p>Just wanted to let you know that the day following this episode, I did NOT call him, I did NOT email him, I did NOT call the OW, I did NOT tell my friends, I did NOT tell anyone but MB. In fact, my immediate thoughts were how I could do the exact opposite of what he would expect...and I'm working on making sure I don't make him think that I invested my life in his kiss. <p>What I did do was send him an email re:address change on his gas (car) bill...only he could do that since he owns the account. He had yelled at me several weeks ago for not letting go and changing the bill to address. <p>He phone me twice today and left messages. One was to make sure I water the lawn. The other was to ask me if he could come by and put D to bed tonight. I have not called him back on either.... <p>In other words, I hear all of you loud and clear. <p>Thank-you.

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