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" I will call your house at 6:59PM. I am not really looking forward to this Lisa. "<p>HEHE... I am almost giggling... I am grateful he is going to try... I know he doesnt want to... and I know that is why I got the meanie emails this am.... knee jerk reaqction to what he does not want to do... face himself- (IMHOpinion)<p>Thoughts? Just thought I would share... i got a giggle. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
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<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr> I am grateful he is going to try <hr></blockquote><p>hold onto this... and remember he's just trying the phone call... NOT recovery! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] And oh yeah - don't freak out if he cancels or doesn't call!<p>OK... there's me making sure you're not TOO giggly! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>NOW... here's a big hugggggg for youuuuu!!!! I will be PRAYING that he will call!!!! Yay!!!!!<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>{{{{{{{{honey}}}}}}}}
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[img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] Good!<p>Yes, keep the expectation low on the outcome of the phone call. As long as he is willing to do counseling, just think of that as a positive tiny baby step in the right direction.
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Honey,
Not sure why you are giggling, but it's a 180 from your usual responses to him. Good job [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] . I hope he follows through and Jennifer is able to breach his defenses.
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I am laughing... since he is going to call me at 1 minute before...HE is SO NOT WANTING TO TALK TO ME>>> about anything... I just think it is funny, and that this am... he was bashing me on not letting the kids go to visit his grandparents.- which we have not discussed for MONTHS- he just brings up bashing out of the BLUE... seriously... my H usually bashes me in counseling... I hope JENN is ready for a true BASHER>..he wants to be HEARD>. and have someone agree with him that he has been treaated wrong by me.. and that I am just a little off and that he is A OK... <p>I am going to take notes and listen for cues from Jenn... I hope my 3 yr old will watch his movies.. upstairs.. big brother.. my older son is out of town.<p>thanks for the encouragement...<p>I guess I am having a good day.. my endorphins are up from my exercise.. my diet is good.. and etc... I am not leetting him and his childish... behavior get me down.<p>Thanks for being friends here, HONEY [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]
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Honey, I don't want to throw water on your happiness; but I am concerned that your H is setting you up possibly.<p>Is there a little part of you that thinks he may no-show your appointment? Just from what you have said I am a little suspicious about his "change of heart" all of a sudden. Obviously you know him and his capablilites; I just don't want to you to get your hopes up too much. Hope I'm wrong, CSue
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Good luck Honey! Keep your spirits up and your hopes down and then you will either be happily surprised or content that you are doing something for you, with or without him. <p>Let us know how it goes!
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Usually, he does what he says.. though he is a new man nowadays... I think he does not want to talk before the appt... which I have tried hard to do.. since dinner last week... SEE, I thought maybe we could talk on some things on our own.<p>I think my H is living in real denial of where and who he is... a sinking alcoholic... sad, but true... I still love him.. but he really needs some recovery... I have been the classic crazed alcoholic wife... yes, sad, but true...<p>My craziness is going, with it... goes my love for him... <p>I have even been willing to live with his drinking, but not the A... sadly the drinking is behind it all... He may prefer his bottle to his family... who knows... I am getting ready for a possible loss of my greatest love of my life... really I have lost him alraedy and to alcohol... so sad..<p>I wont freak if he doesnt call.. jsut talk to Jenn and see what a pro thinks..<p>thanks, HONEY [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]
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Honey,<p>I like what I am hearing from you... You're in the right frame of mind! CSue
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thanks CSUE>.. I have been thinking more about taking care of me.. and taking action on it! Funny the better care I take of myself the less time I have to worry about losing an alcoholic unemployed drunken H.... <p>Maybe it is not so bad afterall?<p>H
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I'm curious Honey; why did you not have an initial session with Jenn by yourself?
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Honey, how did the session go?
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Honey,
I couldn't wait to get here this morning to get an update!!! Tell us how it went!
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Hope it went well Honey.
Let us know.
just wanted to say I am really proud of your attitude. You have had some rough spots but you are doing a fabulous 180.
Hugs to you!
Layli
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