Okay, the last few days have been crazy. First my WW sends me a letter telling me she wants a DV. She has started a new life and a new relationship (this is OM#2 who she is now living w/ even though she has only known him for 4 weeks).
I told her that I wanted to give it some more time, and that upset her. Like I was standing in her way. It's almost she was expecting me to run out and get the DV.
Then she gets upset that I have taken her off the bank accounts (even though she stopped having her paycheck deposited and was getting her own account). She started crying about that.
Then she sends an e-card saying that she still loves me, just not in the way I need her to.
Next she sends me an email agreeing to let me have most of the possesions since she has caused me so much pain. And that if we do a non-contested divorce, then she will pay the fees.
Finally she ends it by saying that this is hard for her too, but her heart has been irrevocably damaged (I can't explain that at all, I have only really LBed on D-day and have been in Plan A, then B when she moved out). After D-day she told me at one point there wasn't much I could do different in the marriage, it was really about how she has changed. (Well, the change wasn't noticable to me until the A started.)
So, do I continue w/ dv now while she is agreeing to everything. That would probably be smart, but this is all happening so fast for me my head is spinning. I don't know what I want. What I really want is my old wife back, not the alien abductee she is now. Do I keep no contact, or just some small contact, like a plan A from a distance?
All opinions welcome, especially from former WS's.
Thanks.
<small>[ July 03, 2002, 02:13 PM: Message edited by: StillCan'tBelieveIt ]</small>
