Someone posted about this site the other day. It is a support site for OW. As a BS spouse I should not have gone there. It made me very angry, so angry I had to come here and vent. Well, I just got a look into the OW mind and it's not pretty. Most seem to view the BS only rec. as the cause and the WS as the victim. I only rec. lurking for those with a strong stomach. It is clear that most do not recognize the boundaries of marriage. A lot are preditors of the MM. Anyone else been there? Any opinions? Several of them lurk here, they were following the post on last time you had sex with your WS with interest.

oops-sorry for my lack of proof reading!

nj ~

Plenty of us lurk over there too. Nothing you can do about them coming here. Don't go over there - it will only hurt you, especially if you are dealing with an active affair.

I agree-I won't go back, it is like putting salt on the wound-what an eye opener. I never thought people were like that, but then again I never thought my husband would have an affair. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I actually posted over there once or twice just to see what kind of responses I would get - it was.... interesting. there were a few that answered me who just liked it over there better for some reason who actully helped me to understand how someone could actually get with a man knowing he's married and has children while being married herself. I got what they called "flammed" a few times for comments I made about the OW but all and all I have to say it was an experience to see what they say about us.

I just visited it! HEHEHEHEHEHEHEHHE!!!!!!!!!!!!! OP have problems too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YIPPEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HAHAHAHA! So it's not a BED OF ROSES being the OP!! Serves them right!! Pretty bad to have to ask advice on how to keep something that doesn't belong to you in the first place. To bad you can entice, but not conquer!! HAHA

I got a kick out of it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for posting about this site.

I found the articles interesting; especially ones by the Washington Post.

It was nice for me to see the the OW in ongoing A and OW after the A are suffering and miserable for the most part! They complain that "life isn't fair". CSue

Okay guys,

Let's stop this thread before someone from over there decides it would be fun to come here and harrass us.

Always remember, it is fine to surf over there if you need to, but talking too much about it here gets a very negative reaction from them, and MB people get really hurt.

We have more important things to think about here, right?

And really, I think it IS useful to know the mindset and experiences of the OP, but our goal is to better ourselves and save marriages. Energy wasted on board wars is energy that could be better expended helping others here.

Hope I didn't upset anyone by writing this, but it has been my experience that it only takes a small comment to get an all out board war happening.

Love and light,

Jacky

Just FYI... I lurk over there regularly and a link to one of our threads on the D/D board was posted... the one about "when did you last have s*x..." or something like that...

So while I don't agree w/ flame wars or posters that go for the jugular, I think we can discuss "their" site w/out them getting on their high horse...

I also think it is amusing that they now have two 'sheltered' forums... 'cause they can't stand for a BS to 'hurt' them...

We lurk over there and they lurk over here... believe me... I went there in full-on angry mode and posted w/ my same username... they knew a whole lot about me from my posting over here...

Well I'm outta here for tonight... have a HOT date w/ H. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Cali

Well, I only went over there to lurk once or twice. Actually made my stomach turn to read their cr*p.

Also, I was so totally turned off by the ENORMOUS amount of posts dealing with s*x. Every imaginable "position" - motives, times, how many people....I felt like I was in a Jr. High School locker room!!!!

Creepers!!!!!!! Don't those people ever do anything besides THINK about, TALK about, OBSSESS over, WHINE about, DREAM about, JOKE about, ask QUESTIONS about - S3X?!?!?!

Talk about REPROBATE MINDS.