My WH told me recently that the last 6 months since D-day have been the best six months of our marriage. He then clarified that they had been the best 6 months for HIM. He understands that my moments of pain have been unbearable at times.

I'll agree that our marriage has broken new ground in the past six months, but do I dare say that they've been the BEST 6 months? With all of the heartache, tears, etc.

Is it possible for the best 6 months of your MARRIAGE to be the worst six months of your LIFE?

Hi,
Well, my H said something similar. He said something like me finding out about his A was the best thing that could have happened to us. I'm sure he meant that there have been some positive changes in our marriage since D-Day. However, it made my skin crawl and my stomach upset to hear him say it that way. Almost made me want to do some major love busting! But I didn't.

I still have days when I quietly want to hurt him back for the pain he caused me. But thank goodness I have this forum to come to to vent, so I don't.

Say, do think that's an improvement? Yes, it is ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Take care

you can add my husbands gem to the bunch---

LOOK AT ALL THE GOOD THAT HAS COME FROM IT(HIS AFFAIR)!! OUR MARRIAGE IS SO MUCH BETTER!!

so i told him at least i now know what to do if i think we are in trouble and need a lift!! he got the point and we even smiled

Well my H says ... he is the happiest he has been in 10 yrs... ALONE... also when he last spent a weekend with me and the kids... about 2-3 wks ago... he said..

He is the happiest he has been in months... but that didn't stop him from doing a couple of really smirky mean things to me.. (he got irate at me at a restaurant... well.. maybe not irate... dirty look... anger... for offering to pick up son when he wanted me to hold him.... and other ridiculous bouts of anger)- it is just insane... they throw their anger at you left and right.. those terrible ws. I am taking a note form the forum and no longer referring to my H and my H... he is now my ws... in my mind- thinking of him in this way is a great lift to me... because when I imagine my H treating me like this... it is a pure nightmare.

Hugs to all of you,,... they have clearly not come out of the FOG!

honey <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I think it's possible for it to be both the best and the worst. You knew things weren't so great before hand, and y'all have seemed to correct so many things that weren't right. I'm glad he's feeling good, and you'll have to gradually work towards yours.